He Shows Up with a Girlfriend

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Registered: 12-29-2005
He Shows Up with a Girlfriend
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Mon, 05-15-2006 - 12:08am

Hi... I haven't posted in a while. When I did post I posted about a guy I met back in October. He gave me his phone number and I gave him mine. I called him and we started a connection. He called me a lot. So I thought he was interested but he never asked me out. A week before the Christmas holiday I asked him if he wanted to get together after the holidays since he was so busy. He said definitely and that he would talked to me before Christmas. He did not called. So of course I was upset and confused and I called him in January. We did not talk long since he said he would call me later. He never did. I sent him a birthday card in February and did not hear from him. So I spoke to friends of his who I am close with and asked them what was going on. They advised me to call him that he was very busy and that "things" seemed to have slowed down for him. So I called and left a message. He called me and left a message saying he was meaning to call me and "thanked" me for the card. We have been playing phone tag so we haven't spoken over the phone like we use to. He called me two weeks ago (left a message) to "catch up" since he hadn't spoken to me in ages. I called to let me know I would stop by his business to say "hi". But I couldn't get there and I did not hear from him. Well... this weekend at an event that we were both going to be at (not together) he shows up with a girlfriend. He knew I was going to be there. This girl sat at this event for 9 hours then joined our group later for dinner. I was mad. Although nothing official started for this guy and I, I am confused. Why would he call me two weeks prior to this event and then show up with a girlfriend. I think his friends that we both know would have said something to me when I asked about him. So this girlfriend is very recent. Actually they did not know her so I know she is very recent. If she is recent, okay, but why bring her if she was going to sitting by herself most of the time while he and I participate in this event. Others were in this event as well so it wasn't just him and I.

Was he telling me to "go over him" or was he just being a jerk? (or both)

Thanks,

PS: Is Painoguy on this board?

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Mon, 05-15-2006 - 7:04am
You should've known way before the event that he wasn't interested in you. He called WEEKS before. If he was looking forward to seeing you he would've called at least two NIGHTS before the event.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 05-15-2006 - 12:15pm

Yes, PG comes to this board sometimes. He wasn’t telling you anything. He brought his girlfriend so she can interact with things he does. I am sure he has not thought of you and him eventually getting together because if he had he would have done what he could to keep some type of communication going. He hasn’t so he was not that interested in forming a relationship outside of someone you talk to every now and then. Don’t take it personal because apparently in the beginning he wanted to know you and contacted you often over time he saw this was something he didn’t want to pursue and he stopped. Just keep moving with it.

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