Is he still into me-after a year??????

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Is he still into me-after a year??????
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 11:30pm

Hi..there..
i just..am..back..from some sad things..that..happened..to me..
and just to cheer up i called..up my best..friend..a guy...
Well...he is a cutie pie...
Well..we had a looooooooong..chat...tat day..and hmm..
i had called..him after 1 year..
so we had..lotsa catching up to do....
aaaaaaah..well..he was..overjoyed..with my call..
Y...he even thanked..me for calling..ahaha..lol..
now a guy thanking..me?
hmmm...tats..wonderful... :)
cos..i cleared..a lot of doubts..in his..silly head...
well..he now..knows..am not married..
and am..not going to new zealand..at the moment..
Hmmmmm...Now..it's upto him to make..a move..hehehe...
Which i hope he finally does..soon..
After all..it's been two years..since we have been friends..
and i deserve...a proposal.. ;)
he's a Sweetheart...and am.a Sweetheart.....lol..
So i guess..that..We are "Indian Sweethearts"
he's been snoopin for info abt me..cos..
i didnt keep in touch...
for one year....aha..
Well....i guess..i was caught up in my own..life..
to give him time..
But then..he could have called...
Oh well..he musta..thought am...married..off..or sumthing..
hehe....
Which ..in reality..am not!!!!
umm..and oh yah..i told him..
am waiting for Mr.Right..and guess...wat...
He says...aha is that..so?
Well..Am waiting..for Miss.Wrong..hmmmm...
Now..tats..news...
and now he got me thinking..could that be me???????????
Well..i asked him to name..the girl he likes..
and he went..all..quiet....and coy..
and i guess..he was..shy...and tongue-tied...
He was..sooo..quiet..that i was wondering..
if he had..cut the phone..
Well..he woudn't dare do tat..
cos it was my ...mobile call..hehehe
and he knows..he would get bashed..if he hung up!!!!
oooooooooh..come on..a guy being shy? ahaha.. :)
Well..it could be...
he loves..me he...loves...me not.. ;)
Well...i know..one thing..
no guy..would be..snoopin..around..
finding..out..if..
his best friend is married..or not?
Hmm...of course i would have told him na? if i had..ne such plans..
y he even remembers...all the proposals..
i got..and the exact number..of guys..i rejected..
names...too..lol..
sheesh..even i had forgotten tat..come on..
how can a gal remember..the number of alliances..
u got..after..i got 20-30...hehehe
But ur scared...if i say no...
Ahhhh..well.....
i was thinkin..we were just friends...
cos ultimately love..comes in the way...and changes..your life..
Ummmmm....
Deep down..i know he likes..me ,he just has to ask...
and of course i will say yes!!!!! ;)
So wat do u all think? is he interested in me..
and will he make a move?
hmmm... tell me..soon................
till then am lyin back and enjoyin the attention :)

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Wed, 05-17-2006 - 10:25am
If he is interested he will make a move but from what was posted it is hard to know what is going on.
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Thu, 05-18-2006 - 1:25pm
I second that. Is this a poem?
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Sun, 05-21-2006 - 12:12am

Hey Dr. Nila! Well, it sounds as if he likes you! But, I wouldn't wait for him to ask because if he is a little unsure of how you feel about him, he may not ask. If he thinks you two are just friends, he may worry you don't think of him anymore than that. I definitely think he's into you! Either, make it clear somehow that you are interested more than just a friend, or suggest something to him about getting together. Either way, I think you can't go wrong! :) Sorry about the sad stuff, but it sounds like something good may come out of it. Good luck!

Also, I posted a question for you on one of your other posts some time ago. I didn't get a reply from you on it, as I think you were out of town at that time. If you don't mind, I'd like to ask your opinion of something. I see you mentioned that you are a dentist. If you had a patient that you really liked, would you consider dating him? Or, is that sort of thing out of the question because of the business relationship? If it would be out of the question because of the business relationship, then would you consider dating him if he wasn't your patient anymore? Thanks!

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Sun, 05-21-2006 - 5:58am

hiii..
sheri..sorry doll..i work 12 hrs..shifts..and 7 days..a week...
tats the reason for the late reply..
yap..am a dentist..
and of course..i wudn't dare..date..a patient..
cos thats against the profession!!!!
hmmmm...so tat doesn't mean i can't date another..dentist rite?
this guy in question who i am talkin abt..is a collegue..
and we have worked together..in the same hospital..for 1 year..
and then i left the job to go abroad...
and still we remained..good friends...
so..all i don't know..is tat wheter he considers..me just a pal..
or he wants me..to be his gf..
Cos..am a Indian..so..we don't date b4 marriage...
so..we only interact...mayb at work..
i call..him often..and text him.. a lot..
and whenever i speak to him..
he listens..patiently..even though he is busy..doin cases..
he's a busy dentist..too..hehhee
he always..asks abt my life..my day,my job..
abt my bro..too..hehe(Bro is also a dentist)
and oh ya he has met mom and bro...
he has even treated mom for her tooth probs..
so the fact is..he knows..my family..well..
hehhee.. :)
He also..knows..the dentists at my workplace..
and has warned me not to talk to a certain guy...hehe..who is a flirt.. :)
ehhee..so neways..he wants to set up a clinic..with..me ie..a surgery..where both of us..will be workin together..and be equal ...business partners.
so does..that..me i feature..in his..long term plans..?????????????
hehe..well..then to ur question...if tat patient isn't a patient ne more..
i wud certainly..date him... ;)
hehhehe
wat say? am rite na?

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Sun, 05-21-2006 - 1:17pm
Hi Dr. Nila! Thanks for the quick reply, it is very insightful. Wow, you are a very busy woman, for sure. I don't know how you do it! Ok, so if you worked with him for 1 year, this is good, as you know him pretty well, especially with the long hours you put in. It definitely makes it hard if you don't date before marriage, but you get the interaction together which is great. It's good that you got to work so closely together to have that interaction and now you two are close enough to keep that interaction going and keep in touch. That's all positive! :) There are a lot of great things you mention. He listens patiently even though he is very busy. Definitely a good sign, as a lot of people wouldn't be bothered to listen when they are that busy. He's taking special time out of his busy work day for you! They say men show their love and caring through actions, not words and feelings like us women do. So, there is some action in his feelings for you by him taking time out of his extremely busy day to listen and talk with you. He is spending time on you which is something special and one of the ways that men show they care. Plus, he asks you about your day, your job, your family. All caring questions and actions on his part! He's also looking out for you about this guy at your work who is a flirt. I take it he dosn't want you to get involved with this guy. He's looking out for you! :) He trusts you enough to want to start a business together. These are all great things! He probably wants to be closer to you as well. The more you two work together and get closer, the better the chances you'd end up together. He could probably open a business with anyone, but he wants to do it with you! He's including you in his future plans! How far do you work and live from each other now? Do you get to visit him sometimes, or will you be visiting him anytime soon? I think you should definitely go for it. It sounds promising! Keep up the contact! Put more of yourself out there for him. This way, he is more sure of how you feel towards him because right now, he probably isn't sure about how you feel about him. He may be worried that you only think of him as a friend or business partner. Show him that there is more interest for you. That will help take the doubt out of his mind. It is said that men need a green light, the assurance that it is ok to go ahead with less chance of rejection. Take a chance! But, do it in your own way which you feel confortable with and when you feel ready. How often do you talk to him? But, it sounds like things are going well already. If a guy really likes you, he'll still be into you. He sounds into you, very much. I wish you the best of luck! Thank you for the info about the patient/dentist relationship. It is very insightful!
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Sun, 05-21-2006 - 7:28pm

hi there...sheri,
hmmm..well..u have helped me a lot..dear..
actually i myself wasn't sure of my feelings..for him..
until last week..when i spoke to him.
But even then...i was flirtin..and ribbin him..
hehe..we can talk..abt nething..without us misunderstanding..each other..
so i feel..comfortable that..he also a best friend..to me
But ...am takin it slow...
i think he knows..i like him..a lot..
hehe..cos that the reason i call..him often and share all my dreams,...hopes..
and wateva happens..in my borin life..
and he hangs..on my every word..
i was..workin in his best friend's clinic..
for tat 1 year..
so that guy is the common friend...
and they went to dental school..together..
and they have been best friends for past 9 years..
and my employer..knows..him very well..
and he has been encouraging..
abt my guy's nature..and personality..
the only thing his best friend....told me 2 years..ago is that..he is a shy guy
and hasn't or didnt want to get involved..with gals..in college..
cos he didnt believe..in going steady and breaking up...he's a committed kinda guy..and once he believes in sumthing..he won't leave it till finish... :)
be it a career option or a case..unles...he gets perfection..my guy won't be satisfied.
thats y everyone is wonderin..wat did he find special in me????????????
hehe..even his best friend.......ie my ex-Employer..
is surprised the way my guy interacts with..me.......
it's a wonder for all..........
Oh we live a little far..sum 20 kms..away..
he's workin in a college..as a lecturer..
and am ..workin in 2 hospitals..
my mom knws i had a crush on him..2 years..ago..and now..knows i like him...lol..
hehe..neways...i plan to get him for a meeting to discuss..abt the new clinic..
and as ur sayin he could have done it..with ne one..
y he could have started a clinc..with his best friend..
the guy who's clinic..i worked..no?
But then he prefers..to start a new venture with me.....
i think..he wants to get closer..as you said..!!!!!
We haven't met in the past one year..
but i call up once every 2 months..and keep him posted..
wats happenin..in my side..of the world........
and he listens.......carefully..and doesn't interuppt..me at all..
he gives me nw ideas...and asks me wat my future plans..are?
he is also motivatin me to do my Masters in Dentistry...
he is a post graduate..am a DDS..only..
so he keeps sayin do Pg..and i was wonderin..
why is he so worried abt me to improve my skills????????????
now i know..he's caring..abt my career..
and want's me to advance in it...
he cares..a lotabt me..
and even when am upset..i can count on him
to cheer me up..isn't tat a good sign..????????????????
he is always...attentive..to me when i call..him on phone..
and never once has told me nila u disturb me a lot..
in fact i think he waits for my calls..but just doesn't tell..
cos mayb he's a guy and doesn't want to reveal..his feelings.......to me???????
neways..our schedules..don't match..cos..he works..6 days..and i work 7 days..
and so......all work and no play..
and he lives with his parent's !!!!!!!!!!!!!
so......i definately can't visit him..at home
we..dont do tat in india..unless..ur engaged..or married to tat guy..
hehhehee
so we dont meet..much......but are plannin..to soooooooon..
cheeeeeeeeeers..reply soon..
nila

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Sun, 05-21-2006 - 8:11pm

Hi Dr. Nila! I'm glad I could be of some help! :) Everything has to happen in it's own time and when the time is right. It probably wasn't the right time for you way back then, but now you are more sure of your feelings for him. Sounds like the right time is now, or at least coming near! It is definitely good to take things slowly. No rush, right? It's taken this long to realize how you feel about him and it doesn't sound like he's going anywhere. He's remained in your life thus far and that's a good thing! You know he's into you if he hangs on your every word. Lucky you! :) He sounds like a serious guy when it comes to relationships. He didn't want to bother getting something started with a girl that he couldn't finish, such as when he was in college. That's a good quality man there! Don't let him get away! :) Guys like him are hard to find these days. Isn't it amazing how things work themselves out? Before, you were not sure of your feelings for him, but look now, as of last week, you are more aware than you've ever been before. I'm so glad for you and I hope it all works out for the best. I enjoy talking with you a lot! It will be very exciting when you get together with him soon! Do you have any idea when you'll meet up with him? I know it must be hard with both of your schedules. How often do you talk with him? Hope to hear from you soon! :)

Sheri

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Sun, 05-21-2006 - 9:17pm

Heya sheri,
ur rite..doll...
he's a serious..guy..
and ur 100% rite ...tat..
we gal's don't find..such guy's nowadays..
hey..i guess..mr.right is right after..all..
and yes..now am..
totally sure...i love him..
and i want him in my life as a life partner..
also..there are many things..that..made me love him..in the past 2 years...
he always..treats me with respect and puts my feelings..first..
but..the only drawback..is he's terribly shy..
and doesn't want to show he's eager..
he is thinking..tat i will mistake his..intentions..
or he thinks..i regard him only as a friend...
hmmm..and i called him..after one year..
last week..after tat we spoke twice..
i call his mobile..hehe..
hey..do u think am..calling him too..much..?????????
will he think..am crazy? not that he has ever told me tat..hehe..
but also..he doesnt call..much..cos..my parent's are kinda strict..here..
we are a very old-fashioned conservative..society in india..
so i think he respects..my limitations..and my privacy..
wat do u say?
yest i called to talk...to him at home..but his mom picked up..
neway..had a small talk with her..she seems..nice too...
do u think my guy wud get angry tat i spoke to his mom..
actually 2 years ago i have spoken to his dad..
b4 his dad was leaving to paris..
hehhee...and his parent's know....
tat..i was..workin in his best friend's..clinic..
hmmmmmm...well..yes..ur rite..that..he has remained in my life..
till now..and after 2 years..he's still waitin..for... ummmm me?
hope so... ;)
Nila

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Sun, 05-21-2006 - 9:42pm
Hey there Nila! Well, him being shy isn't all that bad of a thing. It might make him slow to start. But, even though he doesn't want to seem eager, once he's more sure of himself and your feelings, I'll bet he'll be more eager! Even though he's shy, once he opens up and feels more secure in knowing how you feel about him, he won't be as shy about his intensions. Once he opens up, he'll really open up and will probably be even more senstive to your needs once he knows for sure exactly how you feel about him and knows he can trust his feelings about you and be open about it. This is going to be good! I can't wait to hear how it all works out! I'm very excited for you. Anytime you want to talk, I'm here! :) I have heard that with doctor's (dentist's, surgeons, etc) it is sometimes hard to make a relationship work because of all the hours you have to put in. Is this true? If it is, then it would definitely be good for you two to be together, since you both can understand that about each other. Versus, someone who is not in the business, they would probably not be as understanding about your long hours, right? I would imagine it must be difficult for you.
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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 3:55am
well..am back..from morn shift..
aha..sheri..well..uc..all relationships are difficult..
unless..we be a little more..giving..and expect..less..in return..
we all have to give a part of us..our..time..to be able to recieve love..
tats wat i think..
yes..long hours...are taxing on a doctor..
but then we have chosen the profession..
so we have to deal with being on call..all the time..
but that doesn't mean that..
we will compramise..
abt spending...time with our loved ones..
i always..take time to take care of my mom,she is living...with me
and she is a heart patient..
and i have the afternoons..off duty..
so i spend my time with her..
with her..till i go in eve...at 5pm..
so u c..if we want to make..time for people..we really care abt..
we can...!!!!!!!!!!!! it's the thought that counts...
and with our friends..and family need no..explanations.
and we shouldn't give excuses..
to them..for not spendin..time...with them..
after all,they brought us..up..into this..world..
and we are what we are..because of them..

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