Is he still into me-after a year??????
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| Tue, 05-16-2006 - 11:30pm |
Hi..there..
i just..am..back..from some sad things..that..happened..to me..
and just to cheer up i called..up my best..friend..a guy...
Well...he is a cutie pie...
Well..we had a looooooooong..chat...tat day..and hmm..
i had called..him after 1 year..
so we had..lotsa catching up to do....
aaaaaaah..well..he was..overjoyed..with my call..
Y...he even thanked..me for calling..ahaha..lol..
now a guy thanking..me?
hmmm...tats..wonderful... :)
cos..i cleared..a lot of doubts..in his..silly head...
well..he now..knows..am not married..
and am..not going to new zealand..at the moment..
Hmmmmm...Now..it's upto him to make..a move..hehehe...
Which i hope he finally does..soon..
After all..it's been two years..since we have been friends..
and i deserve...a proposal.. ;)
he's a Sweetheart...and am.a Sweetheart.....lol..
So i guess..that..We are "Indian Sweethearts"
he's been snoopin for info abt me..cos..
i didnt keep in touch...
for one year....aha..
Well....i guess..i was caught up in my own..life..
to give him time..
But then..he could have called...
Oh well..he musta..thought am...married..off..or sumthing..
hehe....
Which ..in reality..am not!!!!
umm..and oh yah..i told him..
am waiting for Mr.Right..and guess...wat...
He says...aha is that..so?
Well..Am waiting..for Miss.Wrong..hmmmm...
Now..tats..news...
and now he got me thinking..could that be me???????????
Well..i asked him to name..the girl he likes..
and he went..all..quiet....and coy..
and i guess..he was..shy...and tongue-tied...
He was..sooo..quiet..that i was wondering..
if he had..cut the phone..
Well..he woudn't dare do tat..
cos it was my ...mobile call..hehehe
and he knows..he would get bashed..if he hung up!!!!
oooooooooh..come on..a guy being shy? ahaha.. :)
Well..it could be...
he loves..me he...loves...me not.. ;)
Well...i know..one thing..
no guy..would be..snoopin..around..
finding..out..if..
his best friend is married..or not?
Hmm...of course i would have told him na? if i had..ne such plans..
y he even remembers...all the proposals..
i got..and the exact number..of guys..i rejected..
names...too..lol..
sheesh..even i had forgotten tat..come on..
how can a gal remember..the number of alliances..
u got..after..i got 20-30...hehehe
But ur scared...if i say no...
Ahhhh..well.....
i was thinkin..we were just friends...
cos ultimately love..comes in the way...and changes..your life..
Ummmmm....
Deep down..i know he likes..me ,he just has to ask...
and of course i will say yes!!!!! ;)
So wat do u all think? is he interested in me..
and will he make a move?
hmmm... tell me..soon................
till then am lyin back and enjoyin the attention :)
Edited 5/16/2006 11:33 pm ET by dr.nila
Edited 5/21/2006 6:00 am ET by dr.nila

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Hi There Dr. Nila! Nice to hear from you again! What a busy girl you are. :) I totally agree about giving. Unfortunately, some relationships can become one sided in a very negative way over a period of time and that's where I think the problems can come for some relationships. For instance, someone who knows they are marrying a doctor, they know she/he has to put in long hours and be on call. They seem to know what they are getting themselves into, but as time goes on, they start to become resentful of that person always working so many hours and having to be interrupted from being on call, so they start to give less, expect more and their relationship suffers. I've heard that's why a lot of marriages don't work out. I personally wouldn't have a problem with it, as I am very understanding and would stick by my man no matter what. I would appreciate the long hours he puts in to help others and help support his family. That's great that you help take care of and spend time with your mom. You are right, if you want to make time for the ones you love and care about, you can and will!
Do you enjoy your work and what do you like most about it? I figure you must like it with all the hours you put in! Just curious, what made you decide to become a dentist? Also, was wondering where are you from? I know you said you were Indian. Were you born there and where do you live now? I was born and live in California, in the United States.
heya...gal...
watsup?? hmmm...well..
ur rite..relationships..are difficult and ultimately one person
starts..resenting the other..i think thats because..
we mayb expect too..much..from the other party..
well..we just should take life as it comes..
and not get attached to the end result...
thats wat is given in our religeous..books,in india..
oh..by the ways..i live here..in india ..
i was born and brought up..all over the world..
i have done second grade..in washington dc..hehe..
also now..my dad works..in Auckland,New Zealand..
i have travelled..all over the world..singapore,new zealand..etc..etc..
i live in a city called..chennai..it's in the southern part of our country..
oh..and gud news...i told my mom abt the guy..
Heya..i spoke to him today..he's not happy abt taking his..friends clinic on lease..
but..he's plannin..something...else..
he said...he has lots of other family commitments..
and can't invest now..
Then i asked him what his future plans..are..
he says...my plans..are not to be revealed..now..
time will tell..
well..oh..well..we spoke for sum 15 mins..
and he was...patiently listening...and givin ideas..
and well..i had called him past 2 days..and he didnt return my call..
but..then when i called..today..i guess..since he attended my call..
he considers..my call..and my time important..hehe..
what do u think?
but the only thing..is he isn't sharing whats in his heart..
atleast if he gives..me sum hints..i can..be assured..he loves me..
i am a shy person..myself..and i don't want to get rejected..
if he thinks..am just a friend..
But i thnk things..have progressed...
a lot further..from us being.."just friends"
oh god..sheri..now...wats this..
first..he shares a lot..now he's not..tellin...me nething?
mayb he feels..i know a lot abt him...and since we are "long term"
he doesnt need to explain..nething to me???????????????????
hmmmm...wat do i assume??????????????
and guess..Mom is happy with my choice..
She says..he's perfect for ur education and since you both are doctors..
you both have a good understanding..of each other.
and also..you both have worked in the same hospital..
so since you have spent much time together..
you know...the person well..by now..
Now she's planning to approach his..parent's ...
that is gonna..happen..
only if this guy proposes..to me..in the first place.. ;)
hehee..well..lets..c..how.things..go..
i hope they like me.. ;)
wish me luck..dear!!!!
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Hello My Friend! I just got home from work myself. That's sounds like a great attitude, to just take life as it comes and not get attached to the end result. That is pretty much how I think already and I'm becoming more and more like that because life is too short. In the end, we don't get to take any of it with us anyway. I like what they teach you there from the religious books!
Wow, India! You are so far away! Isn't it great that we can live so far apart and be able to talk like this? I really enjoy chatting with you! :) And it is so nice that we have each other to talk about our lives and be able to get others opinions about it.
It's great that you've gotten to travel all over the world. Have you ever been to the U.S. yet? I'm glad to hear your mom approves! See, looks like a good choice already! It's seems like your guy has things already planned out in his head. Or at least, he knows what he wants for his future, it's just a matter of whether his plans will pan out or not. It must have something to do with you because normally he shares a lot and now he's not sharing as much, maybe he doesn't want to spoil a surprise! He says "time will tell", so he has some ideas and knows that time will reveal his plans to you. Have you been calling him more lately than usual? Or, have you been acting differently and opening up more, or hinting about your feelings for him? If yes to any of these, then he's starting to think and possibly plan for a future with you. The 2 days before was probably just a bad time for him to talk. He's definitely not avoiding you, he took your call today. He probably wants to talk when he can actually spend the time to talk with you uninterrupted. He probably works a lot of hours too, huh?
I know how you feel about being shy because I can be shy myself and I don't like to be rejected or take things the wrong way either. But, sometimes we just have to take a chance and reveal ourselves more. Otherwise, we might miss what we want. I think the guys feel just the same as we do. I wouldn't want to be rejected either and just think, most of the weight is on the man. That's why is it good if we can reveal more of ourselves and what we feel, so that the guys have enough to know that it is ok to move forward without the fear of being rejected. Maybe he's thinking the same thing you are and doesn't want to be rejected if you only think of him as a friend. Don't forget, he's shy too, but he's pretty open with you. More so than with anyone else! Just try to give him more about how you feel about him, he really may not know. But, you know what your conversations are like. Do you think he knows? They say men don't take hints very well, that they just don't get it. So, do what you can, little by little to let him know how you feel. It dosn't have to be all at one time, just go at your own pace. And keep digging and try to find out what's in his heart. Maybe he's not sharing what's in his heart right now because he is unsure about your feelings for him. Maybe he thinks you still think of him like only like a friend and nothing more, like you've always been. So definitely try to give him more. You don't have to put yourself out there so much that you get rejected. But, maybe just try to give more and give him something to think about. I'll bet you he'd be relieved! He's acting a bit differently with you, going from telling you a lot, to nothing and telling you time will tell. Only time will tell because he must not be sure of how things will turn out becasue he's not totally sure of how you feel. That's what I'm getting from it. Try to talk with him more and see what you can tap into. Maybe you can get on the subject of you two visiting each other. Have you told him you miss him or anything? If not yet, tell him you miss him and you'd really like to see him. Does he ever say anything like that to you?
It's good about meeting the family. I'm sure that will get things going and moving along smoothly! I wish you the best of luck there! But, I know you will do just fine and I think they will love you! Don't worry! Your mom is right, you two would understand each other very well since you are both doctor's. So true, it would probably be a perfect match! We already know that he wants to be business partners with you in his future. No one goes into business with someone they don't trust. He must truly trust and care for you!
It's like I wrote you a book this time! Hope you don't mind! :) The more you can tell me, the more I can try to help you figure things out. I've always found that, when it comes to ourselves and the situations we are in, we tend to be more clouded and can't see things clearly for what they are because we are personally and emotionally involved in it. But, when we listen to someone else's situation, we can judge it more clearly because we are not personally, emotionally involved. It's amazing! Sometimes, I can see another person's relationship so well, even though they are clouded. But, when it comes to my own, I always have a harder time. That's why it's always good to get someone else's opinion. They can see it more clearly because they are not the ones involved it.
I'm a lot like you! I can be shy, especially when I like someone. It's hard to put yourself out there, feelings wise. Especially, when we're not sure of exactly how the other feels. But, if we don't try, we'll never know and then we might miss our chance. I like to try to look at it like this, if we try and it doesn't work out as we had hoped, at least we know and we won't go through life wondering, what if I would have put my feelings out there. How would it have turned it out? We won't have any regrets, we won't have to wonder because we'll know. It is said that we only regret the things we don't do. I am actually very friendly and outgoing, but I can shy when it comes to revealing myself, but only when I am not sure about how the person feels about me. If we know how they feel, then I think we are more secure and open about putting all our feelings on the table. It's just getting to that point to find out how the other feels, that's the hardest part. After we know they feel the same, it's all open and much less shyness. Go for it!
Sheri
well..am back from morn..duty..
and oh yah..i loved ur loooooooooooong..msg..
it's nice that u take the time to reply to me..
it makes me feel so special..
hehe..neways..
yes..i think Gopi knows..tat i am fallin or i have fallen for him..
ohk..let me tell you his name..he can't be nameless..no? his name is Gopi..
hmmm...thats a name of one of our three million hindu gods..we have..
my name "nila" means..the moon..nice ?
well..it is nice..that inspite of living half way accross..the globe we met here..
in ivillage..am so..happy to have found..you..
ur absolutely right !!!!!!!!!!
when i think of my own relationsip with gopi..
i am all muddled up and confused..with his behaviour..
but when you explain..it to me in so..nice and meaningful words...
it's nice to have someone,
who is actaully able to see me and my relationship
from a outside the circle view..
it's actually giving..me a clearer view..of my love..for him..
and i am falling for him..more and more..quickly now..
well..i fell..for him sum 2 and half years..ago..
we met in feb 2004...and now its...may 2006...
hmmmm....and i guess..we have matured over time..
and he has preferred to be...best friends..first..
and the rest of the whole big plan..later...
Sheri..you are right he has the future planned out...
and well..oh he said..that he has..some imp commitments..
and his best friend..knows abt that..(the guy who is the common friend)
so i suspect..gopi has told him abt me...and what his plans..are...
and he's just keeping the surprise..from me!!!!!!
otherwise..he would have told..me ...
i have to buy a house..a car..and thats..my commitments..for the next 2 years..
hehehhehe..well..he didnt say that..did he?
aaaaaah..well..and also..
remember i called his mom and spoke..well..he didnt get angry for that at all..
and when i told him that..i called him..so many times..over the weekend..
he said..ah well..ur calling.is a normal routine...for me..now..
so don't get upset...that i didnt return ur calls..ehhehe
so wat does he mean by that..
is he totally confirmed in his mind...
that..i am..or will be his future..wife?
cos..he always....comfortable with my calls..
and yest..nite..he was relaxed..and ur rite..he was..free
and he wanted..to speak freely to me...and give me his attention...
well..i got his 100% attention yesterday..yahooooo...
he treats me like as if i am his..wife..
and i can call him,text him..at ne time of the day...
i can do as i please..and he won't say a word..
So i guess..thats a good sign..
cos..guys..don't like someone eating into their...time
unless..until..that girl is sumone..special...isn't it?
Hi Nila! I like that, "the moon", that is beautiful! I just got in from work all day. So now it's time to relax and try to see what we can figure out of your situation. I enjoy helping you analyse it. It's only my perspective, but I hope it helps. I'm glad you feel special because you are! :) I know when I am going through confusing times, I find it so helpful to have someone to talk to and get their feedback on it. Thank you for the kind words, I am very glad also that we have developed such a nice friendship. You seem like a very kind, sweet person!
Ok, if Gopi knows that you are falling or have fallen for him and he is not discouraging you, this is good. If he didn't feel the same, or there wasn't a possibility of him feeling mutual about it, I would think he would be discouraging you and not give you his undivided attention. But, that is not the case! This is good! He is giving you his undivided attention and listens intently to you. There probably wasn't a good time for him to get back to you the other day. I am sure that when he talks to you, he wants to be able to give you that undivided attention. If he calls during a busy time, then he wouldn't even be able to listen so carefully to you. And as for, the falling more and more quickly now, it always seems to happen like that, doesn't it? It might take us time to figure it out, but once we do, it starts to come on very quickly and you can't stop it. It's a great feeling! Maybe he just suspected that since there wasn't a good time to call back, he knew you'd call again. I'm not really exactly sure why he wouldn't return the calls, unless like I mentioned before, that it just wasn't the right time with both your busy schedules and undivided attention.
Now, let me ask you, does this common friend know how you feel about Gopi? If he does, he has probably, hopefully told Gopi. If that is the case, that will help make things easier, so that everyone knows where they stand. This is good that you talked to his mom! How did the conversation go? What did you talk about with her? Also, some of his important commitments might just be loose ends that he needs to tie up before he can continue with his other future plans that he has in mind. I don't think that is anything negative to worry about. I just hope it all works out for you! Yes, you are right about his time and conversations, he wouldn't give you all that if you weren't special and important to him! It sounds like he cares for you a great deal. He might have everything planned out in his head a certain way that he expects things to happen. We'll see! I only wish the best for you. You deserve it! It is so hard to find the right person these days.
I would like to tell you something about me and get your opinion. One of the reasons I asked about the doctor/patient relationship issue is, I found myself liking a dentist that I went to a few times. Nothing happened, but we seemed to hit it off verbally (conversation wise). I am done now with my visits there, as it was for some specialty work I needed done. And I am now considering whether I should put more of my feelings out there or not to see if there really is anything to go on. What do you think? Would I have to be the one to make a suggestion, or make a move? Even if my visits are done there, he wouldn't be allowed to approach me, right? So, I have to be the one to approach him, right? I figure, since I am not a patient anymore, there might be a chance to see if there really is something there or not. Do you have any suggestions? Please tell me what you think? I thought maybe I'd send a thank you card and take it from there. He was so kind and attentive towards me during my visits there, which is very uncommon here. He seemed to take an interest in me with questions? I've been to quite a few dentists in my lifetime and have never been treated so well, or had one take an interest like this one seemed to have. To me, there seemed to be some chemistry! But, I couldn't help but flirt a little, so to speak, or compliment him. There's been a lot of eye contact and smiles along with it. Since I am finished and I don't need to go there anymore, do you think there is a possibility that something could develope? From the answers you gave me before, it would be allowed since I am not a patient anymore, right? I don't really mind putting myself out there if I have to. It would be worth it just to know so I don't go through life wondering about it. What do you think, should I try and go for it or not? I value your opinion and would really like to hear what you think. There is just something special about this one and I get the feeling like it might be mutual. I remember you said, if it was you, you couldn't if he was a patient. But, you said if he wasn't your patient anymore, than you would definitely date him. So, please tell me if you think it is worth me trying for? I figure, the worst that could happen is, nothing comes off it. I don't mind taking a chance, but wanted to get your opinion first. Thanks!
I'll be looking forward to hearing more about your situation! I wish you luck and hope all is going well so far.
yup i have told that..common friend that..i love gopi..
and i told him to ask him..wat his plans..are...
and i suspect he has..told gopi abt my feelings..towards..him..
and ur rite if the feelings...weren't mutual..then he wouldn't have encouraged..me
he wudn't have given me time..
and could have been rude..and told..me to stop calling him..
but he didnt did he?? he's still in touch..and still i call,text at any time..
he's always..there...
hearing me out..now even as friends..
we don't do..that..do we?
suppose i call..u and ur busy..u wud tell me call...back..
am busy rite now...isn't it...
but he's not like tat..he wants to be mentally free..and physically avaialable..
to hear my side of the story..
and to be able to give..his..comments..
and wat ever he feels abt the conversation topic at the moment..
but at that time gopi was wishy washy..and wasn't sure..
and didnt say a word...dear..
and that was..like 2 years..ago..
but then...i thought gopi wasn't interested..
so i gave..up..
and went away..for 6 months..to new..zealand...
i called him..from the airport..
hoping to hear him say that he loves me..
but noooooooo..he didnt open his mouth..hehe..
well..ahh..i boarded..Air New Zealand..with a Heavy Heart..
Aaaaaaah..but that..was 2 years..ago..lol..
and after that i came back..last march..
and guess..wat i did i called..Gopi
and told him am back..hehe..
then we kept in touch with calls..and texts..
then after some time
got involved with other guys..
cos gopi didnt give me any inclination...that he likes..me..
and since then for a whole one year..i didnt keep in touch with him...
and then suddenly last week...i donno wat..hit..me?
i just felt like calling him and having a heart to heart..
and we ended up flirting..for 30 mins.. ;)
and u know..sheri he has never..consiously flirted with me...
and all..but he was..so overjoyed that...i called him..
he kept thanking me for calling....hehehhehehe..
now..now..a guy thanking a girl? well..that says a lot of things..no?
hehehe..mayb he was..happy i am still available..and unmarried...
thats y he was asking so many questions...abt me to my classmates..
and askin me lotsa questions like a drill sergent...!!!!!!!!
i never volunteered any info..hehe..
he asked ..me a lot..
abt y i rejected all..proposals..for marriage..
and y i am waitin..well..
me miss..hoity..toity..said..like..a princess..
well..gopi i am waitin for Mr.Right...hehehheh..
and then he said..don't wait..too..long..now..
isn't that..a clue????????????????? sheri?
he's gonna propose..soooooon....is my intution rite?
well..when i asked wat he's waitin for???
he said..i am waitin for miss.wrong..lol
Hmmmm...now abt his mom..oh the talk..went well..
though i haven't met her..she seems kool..dear..
and a nice person..at heart...she was very receptive..
and friendly..oh well..she knows i am Gopi's old collegue..
so thats tat..hehe..cos i don't think his..mom knws abt me..
cos he hasn't told her..abt me..hehehe..
hmmm..neways..
i asked him mom y he isn't getting married..she said..
that we are searching for a nice girl...lol
i almost volunteered my name..but then bit my tongue. ;)
and oh yah..ur rite..he was..very busy..at work..and tired when he came home.
his mom said..she told him to call..but he was so..tired..that he didn't..
so it not that..gopi avoided me..he was..just busy..tats..all..
ooooooooh we girls..assume a lot..and eggxarate..no?
and like i said..
when i called him again..
yup he was...giving me his total..attention..
like a attentive child listenin to the mom..
or like a lover..listenin..to his lover..
and oh abt ur cute..dentist..well u can date him..it's no..harm...
if u like a guy...and since in usa..u guys..are open to dating..unlike here..in india..
i feel that..you should go ahead..and tell him...u like him...
max he will say no..atleast you tried....
cheers..and reply soon
Nila
Edited 5/25/2006 5:18 am ET by dr.nila
Hi Nila! Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. I started replying to you last night when I got in from work, but then I had family come over to visit. So, here I am!
I positive the common friend told Gopi about your feelings and that's a good thing! It probably came about because the common friend asked about his future plans and I'm sure he doesn't normally ask him that, or wouldn't have a reason to. So, that's how it could have come up. This is all so good! You two have a lot of history together. I am a firm believer that if something is meant to happen, it will happen, in it's own time. It has to be the right time. See, before it obviously wasn't the right time. But now, it just might be coming! When you called Gopi after all that time, 1 year, it sounds like he certainly was happy to hear from you! He kept thanking you because he was appreciative of you calling and wanted you to know. I'd take that as encouragment also! Especially after all that time of not keeping in touch with him, he realized how much he had missed your talks. I like the comment about asking questions like a "drill sergent." That is certainly correct, he must have been wanting to know your current situation. He was probably thrilled that you were still available! Men only ask a lot of questions if they are interested. Oh, that would have been good if you said to Gopi's mom that you were a nice girl! I wonder what she would have said?!
Yes, us girls do like to analyse a lot and actually, men are pretty simple and direct. But, us girls just pick things apart, looking for some hidden, deeper meaning. When most of the time, they are direct and just say what they mean and it doesn't mean anything more than what they said. I am learning that now! It sure is fun to analyse though. Although, with Gopi, I think there is something more, but he is probably doing a lot of thinking right now, figuring out what he wants to do and how to do it. Therefore, he doesn't want to talk about certain things just yet. You can be sure, once he figures it out, you'll know! :) I see you said he asked about why you turned down so many proposals. I'm sure he doesn't want to make the same mistake, or see what your reasons are to find out how you feel. That was a good answer. Now he knows you won't settle for anything less than your Mr. Right!
I can't wait to hear more from you next time! It's getting better and better! I suppose we also have to learn to be patient, as some things take time to really get going. It's just so hard to be patient once you realize how you feel for someone. Then it comes on quickly and you want to get started now! That's how I am anyway! I might take a while to make up my mind, but when I do, I am sure without any doubts!
Thank you for the advice about my situation. I appreciate it! I guess I just wanted to hear that is was ok to try considering the prior circumstances. I figure, worst case scenario, nothing will come of it. But, at least I'll know! Regardless, I'm sure he'll be flattered, either way!
So tell me, when will you get to see Gopi and spend time with him? It will be nice when you two can get together and spend some quality time. When do you even get a day off? Did you say you work 7 days a week? I hope you can see him soon! I will be happy for you! Let me know how everything is going with you. Hope to hear from you soon! :)
hey there...
i missed ur mail...awwwww..
ah well..well ur thinking..rite..sheri..
even i think gopi is going..thru a lotsa things in his head..
as in how to tell..him mom???????
how to ..approach me..
now that..i am still available..and not married..hehehe..
hmmm... i guess thats y..he's not telling me anything..
well..neways..i text him personal msgs nowadays...
and abt my day..and where i am at the time of day..
and oh yah now..lotsa love......msgs..ehehehhe
neways...i hope he takes the hints..
and see's that..i am genuinely interested in him..
Well..he knows..
i think..but he wants me to come out with it..
like i said
told him,now Gopi,since You went and asked my classmates..abt me...
now they are gonna spread rumours..abt me...
he said..so wat "I don't care...I have lots of other things to worry abt."
hmmmm....
aaaaah come on..he cares..abt my feelings..
then is he not bothered abt sum one talkin gossip?abt me?
or is he happy that..
atleast something...is gonna do the rounds..of the gossip mills..
and then atleast something...will work out?
i prefer to think it's the second option..that..
he's happy that people will talk abt it..
and it will make it easier on him..to propose to me... ;)
watchya think?
and oh we don't get to meet ..
as am workin..7 days..but then..
i try to call..him once every week..and text daily...dear..
am planning to meet him..in a few weeks..lets c how it goes...hehhe
Love,
Nila
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Hey There Nila! How sweet! I actually missed replying to you! :) I had started to reply that other night, but then my family came over and I got interrupted and didn't get to finish.
Oh yeah, if you are sending messages with "lotsa love" , he definitely knows! :) You know the common friend would try to help by telling him and then, combined with the messages. He just needs to figure out what and how he wants to go about it. I'm sure he wants to tie up and finish his prior commitments, which he probably already made before he knew how strongly you felt for him. I am a firm believer also, that if the love is real and true, it lasts and time cannot take it away if we are committed in our hearts. Therefore, it surely wouldn't matter how much time has passed through all of this. But, it does have a lot to do with timing! The timing has to be right and I am sure, the way it sounds, that time is coming soon!
As for the rumors, what I gather from that is, he surely doesn't have time to worry about people starting rumors. Besides, they are just that, rumors! He has more important things to think of and probably doesn't care because he has no reason to hide his true feelings about you. When you are interested, love and care about someone, you don't mind people knowing. Remember what I told you I learned about how men and women think differently, men are pretty simple and direct. They will ask what they want to know, as he did with your classmates and he was obviously interested in knowing! My sweet dentist asked questions about me, about what I do. Very specific questions! Another reason I thought he might be interested. But, who knows, sometimes we make more out of something than it really is and there is only one way to find out. Put ourselves out there and see if something developes. Nila, in my experience, I have found that men usually only ask questions like that about us ladies when they are interested. Or, want to know for a specific reason. Don't you think? Otherwise, why would someone bother? Us girls do it because we analyse a lot! :)
As for me, don't know his situation. I'll take things as they come, if they do! Nothing drastic, just a subtle message to allow an opportunity. If not, or it's not the right time, then it won't develope. Nothing gained, nothing lost! Regardless, from my heart, I truly want to thank him for being so kind and attentive! My initial visit was covered by insurance, the rest was not and did not go through insurance. So I had to pay for each visit out of pocket. But, money isn't a problem and I never complained about it. But, my last visit, they said there was no charge for me that day. Yet, they did quite a bit of work. Also, the first visit where I had to pay a percentage of the insurance, they didn't end up charging me enough. I found out when my insurance co. sent my statement, that they may bill me more. So I took it to them to show that I may owe more. They made copies. Later, when I tried to followed up on it, they said they were writing the rest off. I'm not sure exactly how all that stuff works. But regardless, they treated me very well and I really want to say thank you, from my heart for such great service. And of course, if it helps me get something started with him, all the better! ;)
I'm glad to hear you are texting him everyday. That is good! It lets him know that even if you don't talk, you are thinking about him. ;) Good move, on your part! It must make him feel so good. Does he ever text you back? I know both of you are so busy and it's hard to even find the right times to talk. I'm sorry you have to wait a few weeks to see him. But, at least you have that to look forward to. I can't wait for you to see him! :)
Yes, here, we do date! But, if you don't date there, how does it work? How can you get to know someone well enough to know if you want a commitment or not? I can see in your case with Gopi, you two worked together for so long, so you know him and know how you feel. But otherwise, how would you normally go about it? Also, what about you and Gopi getting to know each other outside of work? If you don't date, how do you get to know each other? Or, do you just become friends and hang out as a way of getting to know one another. We do that here too! Sometimes, you might be just friends with someone and then later, something will develope out of that. Tell me all! I am totally interested! :) Also, what about the other guys you were involved with? Did you date them, or were you just friends as a way of getting to know them? By the way, if you don't mind me asking, what is your religion? I love to learn about other cultures! I am grateful that me and you are able to communicate so freely even though you are so far away! I'm glad I met you. :) We are developing a such a great friendship and I look forward to writing to you.
Love, Sheri
ahoy there...gurl..
Hmm..Well..my religeon is Hindu..u can google it..and read abt it..
we have 3 million gods..hehe..and each part of India..worships a different god..
and Gopi and me follow ...same gods..since we both belong to South India..
thehehehe...aaha..well..
hmmm..i do text him a lot..not that..he replies..he's not a text freak as me..
am wedded to my mobile..
oh well..he has told me 2 years ago..it's better..if u call..me
cos i don't like to type texts..hehe...
cos he too..is a dentist..and our fingers's are imp to us..
so we can't afford to have strain innjuries..
by wastin time in textin..rite?
ooh yeah it must be making him feel good..
though he never tells me..but i know..rite?
cos he has never told me to stop my texting..
and he hasn't been rude..to me...
even after i text him love msgs..
he has remained normal..as before..
and didnt tell me Nila,i didnt like ur texts...
so he's all fallen hard in love for me.....
but is taking his time..to say it to me..rite?
hmmmmmm...oh yayaya..i send lotsa love..and all..
and share wateva is happenin in my day with him
where i am goin..
what time am going to which hospital? etc..etc...
and..oh well..like u said..
he knows..wat i am upto..thru the day..
inspite of us not speaking..for a week..or us not meetin...rite?
and of course my attitude towards..him has changed drastically..
i coochin coo..in his ears..
and ask for all sorts of little favours...and all..
and be little miss..princess..and he loves to give me advice..and offer soulutions..
haha..actaully thats....my way of bonding with him..
i give him to respect and the pride tat
i honour his advice and his time..
and i take his decisions all the things i need to figure out... ;)
and as i said..when i speak he listens..attentively
sayin a word here and there..and
saying things as they are..as u said..directly...
You are rite men are direct..and Gopi always..calls a spade a spade..
no hidden agenda..
one more thing for u to analyse..
i asked him..u told me u are gonna settle in another city..2 years..ago..
He said ....now when did i tell u that..
"I have never hidden anything from you...I am a open book"
Now thats a difficult thing for him to say..dear..since i knw he's a shy guy..
so thats when i thought he has mutual feelings...for me..
cos it's a big leap for men to open up to a gal..and share their most intimate feelings..
and they don't do that..unless...it's their mom.sis or girlfriend...rite?
and oh we don't date
hang around as friends and collegues..
and oh we haven't met since 04..hehe..
but then we have been in touch..
and oh..yup..we both are very busy..and he's a family guy..and he's living with his mom..
so he has to attend to her needs..too..apart from workin in a dental college...and
apart from the clinics he goes in the eve as a consultant..to do cases...dear...
and ur rite that men only ask abt gals they are interested in...
hmmmmmmmmm..and even am sooooooo..happy to have met..u..ur a nice..and friendly gal..
Am too..lookinf forward to a lifetime friendship..dear..
By the ways..wats ur sunsign...am a piscean and was bron in march..hehe
He's a virgo...hehe..
Ur....kinda like me... ;)Nice,friendly..and expressive wirh words.... tats..y mayb god made us..meet and bond..over the oceans...hehe
u can mail to my email if ya..want ..
ur wish...;)
watchay say?
Love ya..lots..
Nila
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