Is he still into me-after a year??????

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Is he still into me-after a year??????
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 11:30pm

Hi..there..
i just..am..back..from some sad things..that..happened..to me..
and just to cheer up i called..up my best..friend..a guy...
Well...he is a cutie pie...
Well..we had a looooooooong..chat...tat day..and hmm..
i had called..him after 1 year..
so we had..lotsa catching up to do....
aaaaaaah..well..he was..overjoyed..with my call..
Y...he even thanked..me for calling..ahaha..lol..
now a guy thanking..me?
hmmm...tats..wonderful... :)
cos..i cleared..a lot of doubts..in his..silly head...
well..he now..knows..am not married..
and am..not going to new zealand..at the moment..
Hmmmmm...Now..it's upto him to make..a move..hehehe...
Which i hope he finally does..soon..
After all..it's been two years..since we have been friends..
and i deserve...a proposal.. ;)
he's a Sweetheart...and am.a Sweetheart.....lol..
So i guess..that..We are "Indian Sweethearts"
he's been snoopin for info abt me..cos..
i didnt keep in touch...
for one year....aha..
Well....i guess..i was caught up in my own..life..
to give him time..
But then..he could have called...
Oh well..he musta..thought am...married..off..or sumthing..
hehe....
Which ..in reality..am not!!!!
umm..and oh yah..i told him..
am waiting for Mr.Right..and guess...wat...
He says...aha is that..so?
Well..Am waiting..for Miss.Wrong..hmmmm...
Now..tats..news...
and now he got me thinking..could that be me???????????
Well..i asked him to name..the girl he likes..
and he went..all..quiet....and coy..
and i guess..he was..shy...and tongue-tied...
He was..sooo..quiet..that i was wondering..
if he had..cut the phone..
Well..he woudn't dare do tat..
cos it was my ...mobile call..hehehe
and he knows..he would get bashed..if he hung up!!!!
oooooooooh..come on..a guy being shy? ahaha.. :)
Well..it could be...
he loves..me he...loves...me not.. ;)
Well...i know..one thing..
no guy..would be..snoopin..around..
finding..out..if..
his best friend is married..or not?
Hmm...of course i would have told him na? if i had..ne such plans..
y he even remembers...all the proposals..
i got..and the exact number..of guys..i rejected..
names...too..lol..
sheesh..even i had forgotten tat..come on..
how can a gal remember..the number of alliances..
u got..after..i got 20-30...hehehe
But ur scared...if i say no...
Ahhhh..well.....
i was thinkin..we were just friends...
cos ultimately love..comes in the way...and changes..your life..
Ummmmm....
Deep down..i know he likes..me ,he just has to ask...
and of course i will say yes!!!!! ;)
So wat do u all think? is he interested in me..
and will he make a move?
hmmm... tell me..soon................
till then am lyin back and enjoyin the attention :)

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Registered: 04-05-2006
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 12:26am

Hi There Nila! I was hoping you'd reply soon! I'll go and google Hindu tonight! I am interested to find out a little about it. That's nice that you and Gopi follow the same gods. I'm sure that will help make things a little easier in the long run. But more importantly, it means you two have that in common. A very good thing!

I can see where some people don't like to text. Guys might not be as much into that as girls are. Although, I'm sure he still loves to receive them from you even though he doesn't send them. He probably finds it to be tideous! It does take a little while to type what you want to say. He definitely hasn't tried to discourage you, at all! If it bothered him, I'm sure he'd tell you to stop texting, or even calling, if it bothered him. I think he enjoys it!

Men are problem solvers! We analyse and they find solutions to problems. They are all about action. It's cute that he gives you advice and offers solutions! Yes, I'm sure it positively makes him feel great that you take his advice into consideration and treat him with respect. Men love that! And he sees that even though you aren't together yet, it gives him an idea of how you'd be with him in marriage! Respect, honour and consult with him. He's definitely going to consider all this. :) Him giving you advice is the sure proof that he is listening to you attentively. If he were just going through the motions, just to be nice, he wouldn't be listening so attentively and wouldn't be able to give proper advice if he wasn't paying attention. Also, if he knows you love him and now have all these feelings for him, if he didn't feel remotely the same, he would try to bring something up right away, so as not to hurt you and lead you on any longer. He has been your friend for so long and he wouldn't want to do that to you. Therefore, I think he'd be up front with you. So far, so good! It's looking very good for you!

About him telling you he was going to settle in another city 2 yrs ago. He was probably tossing the idea around in his head way back then, but he probably changed his mind. Now, it's been so long ago that he doesn't even remember talking about it or considering it. Yep, he's straight out telling you that he has never hidden anything from you. He's been completely open and honest. You even said how shy he is and everyone knows that, but he is so open with you. Such a huge compliment and indication of how he feels about you. Also, he's telling you he's an open book with you. It's all there for him with you. He must feel so comfortable with you. He's open with you, but not so much with others. He values you and your friendship/relationship! When you two get it together, it's going to be good! Yes, most men will only open up intimately with women they care about and are close to. Someone dear to their hearts!

My sign is Libra! Am open and friendly, yes. Libra is an air sign, we're suppose to be very intellectual and good at communication and like peace and harmony. Yours is a water sign, as you probably know. Yours is suppose to be compassionate, emotional and good at understanding the needs of others. I am very open, especially if I feel comfortable and close with someone. You are soooo nice, I feel I can open up freely with you. I guess we just connected! Some people we bond with and others it just doesn't happen. We bonded already! Could be it was meant to happen. I believe in that! There are millions of people on the net, so be it, you and I met and bonded. It's great, I'm glad we did!

I'd love to email you! I tried, but when I clicked on your name and then the send email, it said "Sorry, this user has opted to not receive email via their profile." If you click on my name and then click send email, it should let you. I've opted to receive email under my board settings. I'd love to exchange email addresses with you! It's more private also! I hope we stay friends forever, that would be nice! Lots of love back to ya, Sheri :)

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Registered: 04-14-2006
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 6:18am

hi there sheri,
i mailed..u..yaahahaha..
well since you came into my life..
i have learnt to appreciate Gopi a lot..
and my love for him has grown..
in many fold..and now i guess i have reached a peak..
that i can't contain it in my heart..
i wonder how he feels.. ;)
anyways..ur rite he hasn't discouraged me..
and definately not told me not.. text or call..
so that just means he enjoys the texts..
inspite of his busy work load..
and coz..we haven't met in the past 1 year..
i guess...he doesn't want to lose me again..
watchya think???????? am i rite..
oh well..i wanted to go to him and tell..
i am madly in love with u..
but sheri i am old fashioned in that aspect..
i want him to realise my importance..in his life..
and come and tell..me..as and when he is ready..
isn't that the right approach
ohh well..in india girl's don't propose generally..
well...there are some who do..
but i am not like tat..
i really respect Gopi and love him a lot..now..more,
in the past 2 and half years..
since we know each other...
and your analysis..has made me understand that he's also..mutually interested in me..
and is just waitin for the right time ...
You know what i got sum good news..
in india we see the individual birth horoscopes of the couple to get married..
and match them to ensure they have a happily married life..
in Hindu's we follow..astrology in imp stuff like marriage..
and guess wat Gopi and my horoscopes..match!!!!!!!!!! Yipeee...
Now all i gotta do is call Dad in New Zld..and tell him to come and meet Gopi and decide what to do..
I am sure since he values my feelings..and is a gentleman..
he will definately not say no to my pop...hehehe..
espl since the horoscopes match and all...cos thats the main things his parent's want..
the horoscopes to match...
only thing is his dad is in Paris..and hasn't returned to India..
So i guess...he's waiting for him to ask him to approach my parent's or sumthin..hehehhe...
Thats wat i think..neways..lets c..My dad is coming in July end..and we plan to speak to him in Aug..after 15th..
Uc..in India..marriages..are arranged by parent's and if me and gopi get married..
us..being friends...before marriage..will be a lot..easier on us..
than marrying a total stranger..isn't it? hehehe...
Us being in Love is gonna be another... bonus..and i feel..after marriage..
we both will be more mentally and physically closer..and more..compatible.......in marriage...and life!!
Hmm....u and me.... both were meant to be...friends..across..the globe..
just when i was..lost in the wilderness..abt Gopi..
god sent me an angel in you...
You a libran..wow..then u must be very attractive..
i hear libran women are stunning..
hey..i think u are...isn't tat rite? my friend...?????????
and oh ya...one more thing..pisceans and librans..bond like glue..
so...u can expect me to be there forevr...and ever...
even after mayb i get married..and all..hehe..
which i hope is that i get married to Gopi...
and i hope u can attend..the wedding..in India..
lets c..what god has in store for us..
After all he has ..brought us this..far..
he will surely guide us through ...
Hmmm.and oh wats the latest on ur cute Dentist..???????????
keep me posted...dear..
cheeeeeeeeers..
love ya...lots,
Nila
Wtchaya say?

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