He wont ask me to be his girlfriend!
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| Sun, 06-12-2005 - 9:11pm |
Hi all, i am new to this board, i really need advice on what to do or say. My boss and i started dating a month ago, we have a great time together... He wants the same things i want, marriage and children. I have found it strange that he had not asked me to be his girlfriend formally(i am the old fashioned type when it comes to that). Anyways last night we went out clubbing with my brother and his girlfriend, While my brother's girlfriend and i went to the batheroom my brother and my guy had a conversation where my brother asked him what was the deal between me and him. He responds by saying that he really likes me and that he does see a future between us but that he didnt want to make it official because he is my boss and that he is afraid he could get fired. He says that he wants to wait a while before he makes the decision of asking me out. So my question is what do i say about all this to him, i think we are both adults and if we want to be together we can, we dont have to tell anybody in the office that we are together. I am bothered by the thought that he could wait a whole year if he wanted to make a move... And also why did he tell my brother this and not communicate it to me.... I dont know what to think about the whole thing.. what if he doesnt want me to be his girl and he is just using the whole boss situation as an excuse.... I really want to talk to him about it..so what do you guys think? what should i say?
PS.. He also told my brother that he thinks i am still not over my ex...what the hell is that all about?
Please give me some input on this...
Thanks!

Welcome to the board.. Well first he told you brother because he asked and you haven't. Second, this is a career situation. You should be just as worried about the company finding out because he is your boss you are in to be fired if it is against thier policy also.
I think if you both have a good time why be so hung up with a title. Espcially when that title can cost you something as your job. Talk to him and see, I am sure he knows your brother relayed what the two of them talked about so bringing it up is no big deal but facing it. I would warn to tread lightly on dsitinguishing a title because work romances though can work is best with nothing said but as you go out you still wonder if someone sees you. So watch it on getting a title atleast with that there is no lies being told if ever approached.
hopelesslyinlove2005...
PG likes your name....a lot!
Personally...I think you should look for alternate employment if you plan to pursue a relationship with this man.
Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?