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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 9:26pm
My boyfriend is always making travel plans without me. We have been together 2 years and he has traveled to other countries repeatedly. Not once has he included me in his plans. He states he loves me but I am questioning this now, He just came back from one trip and is making plans for another, without me again.
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In reply to: pinkroses1968
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 12:22am
I'm assuming that you want to go and can afford to go. If so, have you ever asked if you can come along?
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Registered: 03-09-2006
In reply to: pinkroses1968
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 1:16pm

What are you wanting help with? Advice on how to get him to envite you? Advice on how to accept that he is totally Me, and not at all Us? Advice on whether or not after giving two years to this guy you should continue one more day?

What does he say when you voice your dissapointment in him jetting off with out a second thought about you?

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Registered: 04-04-2006
In reply to: pinkroses1968
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 2:41pm
Advice on whether to give him one more of day. I have voiced my feelings about his trips to him on numerous occasions, telling him it hurts me,telling him I want us to do things like this together as a couple, but he continues to make all plans without me included at all..He tells me I should wish him a good trip and be happy for him or states what is he supposed to do cancel plans because of me! Yes I am seeing it is all about him. He says it is not selfish for him to go without me but that I am being selfish asking him to not go.
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Registered: 03-09-2006
In reply to: pinkroses1968
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 4:53pm
After all of that you still need to be told whether you should stay one more day? You know, I read something once that goes "men marry hoping she'll never change, women marry intending to change him". Both are wrong ways to go into a real mature adult relationship. Now this has been going on for quite some time. This is who he is. He won't change. Why? Because he does not see the problem and he doesn't believe it is one on him, as far as he's concerned it's your problem for being upset. So you've got to ask yourself, is this the sort of man you invision as a good husband and father to your children? You can't possibly say yes unless you value self centeredness, inconsideration, and a lack of integrity and character.

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Registered: 04-04-2006
In reply to: pinkroses1968
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 9:12am
Thank You. He has been showing such love and devotion lately, telling me there is no one else he is interested in other than me, I have told him I want to end the relationship, but he insists we belong together, and that he loves me. Then I found recently ( which I have not told him I know ) He has been secretly communicating with another woman and has asked her to meet him on his next trip! Stating they could have some wild times together..........
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Registered: 03-09-2006
In reply to: pinkroses1968
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 12:00pm

Okay, so we know two things with out a doubt 100% true about this guy.

1) He is a very convincing actor. Serious Oscar worthy performance.

2) He is a fabulously gifted liar, I bet he's so good he even believes it himself.

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