Help! are we together or wot?
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Help! are we together or wot?
| Fri, 06-17-2005 - 5:07am |
My guy and i are from a culture concsious eastern country...we were really good frends for about 6 mths before he askd me to marry him...after that we broke up 2 times and recommitted two times...both da times was due to da same problem involving a very good guy frend of mine whom my guy immensly disikes because of his attitude and i completely understabd y he does now (ive ended my frendship wid dat guy now). my guy wanted me to change and now i realise dat he was ryte and i was wrong and he only wanted me to improve... and i WANT to change now...da 3rd time we recommitted after 1.5 mths, 2 weeks ago...the problem is dat my guy's attitude towards me has completely changed...he used to b very romantic and excited wenever he used to be wid me and now he barely wants to talk to me or meet me...he still wants to marry me and he told me he still loves me enuff dat he came back to me...I was da 1 who was wrong in our fights and i trurly hurt and angered him and broke his heart...i do realise dat he doesnt wanna let me go but he's still angry and hurt...i dont kno wether we're still together or not wen he barely talks to me...i dont kno how to deal wid him or bring back da fire and excitment dat he used to feel for me...i dont want to end da relationship...wot shud i do?

i would give him his breathing room and then talk to him on where you stand in his life. they only way you will really know is by asking him.
Loves you enough to still marry u? What does that mean? Are you prepared to be disrespected for the rest of your life just because you don't want to break up with him? this isn't the way it's suppose to be. I realize all cultures differ but you still deserve to marry for all the right reasons.
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to:gidgetsmt
dats how it started out...in da beginning i was planning to marry him becoz it was so right in every sense...it wud have made every1 so happy...but after our 2nd breakup i realized dat i really do love him a lot and dat i dont want to live widout him...and about da way he wanted me to change; i used to and still am to an extent very outgoing and very openminded...girls in our culture are supposed to be very reserved and conservative and are particularly supposed to stay away from guys...he wants me to b like dat and i want to too coz girls who are too openminded or outgoing are considered to b black sheep...they have no "izzat",dat is, no respect...i guess u r ryte da only thing i can do is give him a breathing space...but da thing i did not mention before is dat in our country most marriages dat take place are arranged marriages and my family is also currently looking for a good guy for me...they will not let me wait for him if they find a suitable match which can be anytime now...i dunno how much time i have
to:fluffybuttdiva
he's hurt and broken hearted and angry at me but he still came back to me and still wants to marry me...da intensity of his love is not da same but its still there...and da only reason i want to marry him now is because i love him and i dont want to live widout him...dat sounds like good enuff reason to me
if your parents are looking for another man for you to marry, why is that?? do they think he isnt right for you?? do they think you wont be happy?? do you think you could be happy in 5 years when the dynamic of your relationship changes and his expectations of you are different, meaning you become the reserved person he wants you to be and you are a different person??