Help me ASAP, I am going crazy...
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Help me ASAP, I am going crazy...
| Wed, 05-11-2005 - 11:27am |
Hey guys, I have a huge issue. I have been with my BF for almost 4 years. We have already lived together and sold the house, we have gone through a lot, but I was taught by my folks to give something everything you have. He told me this weekend that He wanted to still date me and take thing s day by day, but since it is summer, he doesnt want to feel guilty if I dont go out with him and his friends. I used to hang out with someof his friends before we dated, so it hurst me a little to not be included, together or not. I am hurting so badly right now. I also now that he has a lot of 'girl' friends and i wonder if since our talk on sunday, which he was so happy we had the talk and still told me that he loved me, if he has called and screamed out that he was available. I am going to say something to him just to make myself feel better, to the tune of, if you want to date or sleep with someone else during your 'time' but still want to see me, it's not going to happen, If you want to date someone else, then expect to never talk to me or see me again. And I am sucha control freak that I cant just let go for even a couple of days. I am soo sad, like i was defeated by something. He has come along way since we have dated, and he knows it. i fell like his friends and crappy family are influencing him. how do i handle this situation, do you thinkif i let go, even if he talks to other girls, he would miss me, what the heck do I do???? Please help.

sounds like he is looking for some "space" or just wants to break up for the summer.
by what you stated here-He told me this weekend that He wanted to still date me and take thing s day by day, but since it is summer, he doesnt want to feel guilty if I dont go out with him and his friends.
if you call him and say what you stated- it sounds threatning and if you are just seeing each other and broke up a 4 yr relationship and you want to get back together with him i wouldnt say anything, i would go have a great time myself, and see how he responds, if you dont hear from him he may be moving on. if he does contact you play it cool(easier said than done)
i know it sucks to think that and it really hurts alot but there is no better medicine than your girls and your family to help you out. hang in there it will get better and easier i promise, i was going to get married a few years ago and we ended our 5 yr relationship i cried for days but in the long run we are really great friends now, i even became friends with his new girlfriend and we are actually happy.
Is he presenting this as just wanting some time with the guys?
Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?
Ugh...hugs to you.
Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?
I don't understand... did he say he is wanting to date others? or be open to that possibility?
People treat you as you allow.
This is what I'd do. I'd talk to him.
~pineapple_girl