Help! What does his silence mean?
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| Sat, 12-03-2005 - 8:10am |
About 8 months ago I initiated an email "relationship" of sorts with a guy at work. Really its just every day talk about nothing (Seinfeld type). We talk every single day. Within these emails we have discussed our past relationships, what we are attracted to, and any other topic of the day. On more than one occasion he told me unless a girl tells him she's interested he never assumes she is and he never makes the first move.
Yesterday I finally got up the nerve to tell him I liked him and was interested. He has yet to respond. In a guy's world what does the silence mean? If he wasn't interested wouldn't he have told me pretty much right away??? Should I wait it out and not email until he responds? Do guys really mull things over in their head I thought most things were black and white --- so either you do or you don't.

Hi Hannah!
First off Im starting to find out myself that its not always black and white with men. Its a tag that they have had placed upon them, and I dont think it pertains to all men.
I think you took him by surprise, and thats a good thing, no harm. I think you give him a few days and see what happens.
I was dating a guy, we went out a couple times. He was the one that asked to see me third time. Well hes a very busy business man and I tried to be understanding of that.I then got to the point where I just one day out of the blue texted him and said "Hi, was hoping to hear from u about dinner, but havent heard a word. So take care of yourself."
Well in minutes I got a text back saying Im sorry, Ive been so busy with work and no free time, but I promise Ill call you sunday and we'll set up a date. Well Sunday came he called and never mentioned dinner. At that point I walked away. Never told him, just walked.
I hope things work out for you. Is there anyone else in his life by any chance???? The guy I date now, we had a similar situation. He kept saying we should get together for lunch one day. But the first 2 times we set it up, he canceled. On the third attempt by him I said I dont know. He then told me, he sat back and was thinking, because he never told me there was someone else in his life. I think he felt guilty and wasnt sure what to do. He told me he started out chatting with me just being friendly and all of a sudden he became very interested in knowing me better. We had that lunch and dated, he still dated her, but as of now after a few months, he has broke it off with her.
Point is there could be other reasons for the silence, so give it time, dont rush life. Let me know how it goes, im curious!!
Sue
No there is no one else in his life. I'm going to wait it out but its driving me crazy.
Thanks and I'll let you know.