How am i going to get through tomorrow?!

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Registered: 05-24-2005
How am i going to get through tomorrow?!
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Wed, 05-25-2005 - 2:25pm

Ok

Well tomorrow my gf has her first softball game since last week. I found about her past sexual partners on sat night when we talked, and the softball coach is one of them. I have went to all her games this year without knowing about this and now i know the two of them use to sleep together.

I feel sick to my stomach now and I know its going to be soo much worse tomorrow if I go to her game. Because I am actually going to see this guy there. All I picture in my mind is them two together having sex. I want to throw up. I feel so nauseous and upset. If I dont go to the game she is going to knwo this is really bothering b/c I have not missed a single game of hers. If I do go its going to be so hard for me.

I dont know how Im going to get through tomorrow.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:24pm
Like I said before you love her and she loves you don't throw that away because of her past! Don't lose your present and future b/c of the past. Show her why she fell in love with you in the first place and be at her game with a smile! Best of luck.
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Registered: 02-23-2005
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 4:16pm

You really got to let go, you are obsessed! And if you can't really put it behind you, then you should go ahead and break up. She told you her past in complete honesty and you are holding it against her. What she has done does not make her who she is. She has every right to be mad if she found out how upset you are over something that you have no control over, and has nothing to do with the love you two have.

And when you see this guy, so what. Of course you won't like him anymore, duh... I still don't like ex's of my ex's even though I"m over them. They might be great people, but I roll my eyes, mumble under my breath something not nice and get over it. They didn't do anything wrong, its my problem.

YOur girlfriend and this guy didn't do anything wrong! They were consenting adults and they don't sleep together now, so get over yourself. You are worrying yourself sick over something that is/was basically none of your business! And it still has nothing to do with your relationship now! You better let it go quick or you will lose her, and while you lose her, you will hurt her feelings and very being, REALLY BADLY. In the future, don't ask if you can't handle it. Just don't ask.