How Do You Know?

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Registered: 11-02-2005
How Do You Know?
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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 1:00pm
How do you know if you are really loved or just being played by a really really good player? Because sometimes it seems like you're loved but a few other actions make you kind of think otherwise. Know what I mean. I guess you just have to trust them, right? This thought has been running circles in my mind for a few days now. Any thoughts? Thanks!
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sat, 02-18-2006 - 4:22pm

>>How do you know if you are really loved or just being played by a really really good player?<<

It's also possible that he does love you, but does so in a way that isn't what you're looking for in a relationship.

Anyway, I knew that I'd met Mr Right when I had absolutely no doubts in my mind. I was quite a ruthless dater - if a guy did something that I wasn't happy about I would up and leave. No sense spending time with Mr Wrong :-)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-20-2006 - 3:26pm

nicki8705...

It's only PG's 2 cents....but I think a man's desire for a woman is often based on the number of times she says NO....and yet HE STILL MAKES THE EFFORT TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP HAPPEN?

You didn't indicate how many months (or years) the 2 of you have being seeing each other? So this is definitely a factor when it comes to an EVERLASTING LOVE or a VERY GOOD FRIENDSHIP?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:15pm

" Because sometimes it seems like you're loved but a few other actions make you kind of think otherwise"

I think if you are really truly loved there won't be actions that make you think otherwise. I've been with my DH for almost 10 years for example, and never once have his actions or words made me second guess or think otherwise.

And anyway, it's the actions that speak the love, not the words. People can and will say anything they darned well please. Actions are much more difficult to consistantly and continuously fake.

If his words say he loves you, but his actions don't, or the actions don't consistantly enough to let you know that he does, then listen to the actions.