How to get passed it...

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2010
How to get passed it...
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Sun, 06-06-2010 - 3:23pm

I'm new to posting on this board but I thought it would be a good place to try and get some advice on a situation which is driving me a bit mad :-(
I started seeing a guy who I watched every week (hockey player). I added on FB just for fun but he actually recognised me from games. He wanted to meet so I went out with some friends and his and we got on well and went out the next night together. Went back to his for film (nothing happened) and then we had a few texts and then didnt see him the following weekend. He did text asking me to meet him and the guys for drinks after match but I said I was in another bar and if he wanted to see me he could come there. I left not long after and he kept texting asking to see me. Then the follwoing week we went out again on and went back to his for a film again. That wkend and following week I didn't hear a lot from him until he text after the match again (which I had ignored him all the way through as he usually kept looking up at me). So i called him oit basically and said that i didnt like the fact that hed not text etc (possibly sounding like an idiot but i thought he should realise that i wouldnt just pander to him like most girls would do given his job). Then we text a bit but never managed to see each other again as he had work meeting then was away at a weekend with work and went hom as it was the end of the season.
With seeing him all season and knowing he was noticing me all season too (as he told me) I am finding it so very hard to let go of!!

We did msg on fb when he was home but when I went onto his fb it had him as in a relationship and the girl is from the area he played in the previous season so it's got me wondering if he was seeing her but keeping it a secret from me. This also makes me feel awful as I hate the idea of cheating and to think i was dragged into it?!

I just don't know what t odo and I know it's obviously not going to go anywhere but i feel stupid for letting myself feel this way! Any advice on how to make myself feel more positive would be extremely grateful!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2007
Sun, 06-06-2010 - 8:44pm

Honestly, it seems like he has a girl for every season. It seems like to your surprise he had a g/f on FB.

Missy
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2010
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 5:49pm

Thank you!! You have put it very well- basically all my jumbled thoughts into a succint message. To answer your question he never said he was with anyone and lso he didn't have any relationship staus set and it wasn't till he went back home at the end of the season that i saw it after sending a message to him. So it was a bit of a shock esp when i clicked on the girl (as you do lol) and she was in the last place he'd been the previous season!

I will take care and just try to keep positive and not dwell on things (which I'm very good at :( ).

Thanks again!