How to know he likes me?

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Registered: 06-04-2005
How to know he likes me?
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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 3:12am
We met each other last year, and have got familiar fast. Recently, we've got more familiar and talked more after joining a music camp held by church 3 weeks before. Indeed, I really like him as he is a nice and energetic guy. After the camp, I invited him to join my fellowship meetings, he has joined twice already.
In past two weeks, he feels unhappy at work, as he has argues with his boss. He tells me he feels unhappy about this when I send SMS and email to him. He says thank you for my concerns. He treats me nicely too.
My doubts are that:
1. I don't sure whether he will be annoyed by my concern.
2. Will he treat me nicely just because I concern over his situation at work, but not because he likes me?
3. Should I do more to let him know that I like him (I afraid I will scare him by further actions)?
Thank you!

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 8:12am
I knew my memory served me correctly.
I remembered you because I could relate to you as I was and am going through similar experiences with someone not of the same race.
The thing with him not making a move, you see, he may not have a problem with you two being interacial but I'm sure he has considered family and friends and what they may think. They may give him a hard time and he's fully aware of that, trust me.
So there was one white guy who used to flirt and smile at me and talk to me all of the time. I was very open and friendly towards him but noticed he wouldn't take it any further even if I was friendly and open back. So my attitude was the same as yours. I'm not chasing after him. He knows I'm friendly and I smile and talk back with him so what's his problem? I knew he wasn't married and we were both the same age with no children. I thought he was perfect for me but... he obviously thought otherwise. Now, there is another one who just stares and gawks at me. I know if we were all the same race, one of them would have asked me out by now.
My mother used to tell me that they may find us attractive but because of how they were raised makes it difficult in pursuing anything further with us.
Any way, I wish you luck and all the best. Know that it's not you. It's him and possibly his way of thinking.
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Registered: 02-25-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:43pm
Fear of rejection is your biggest enemy in the dating world. We are all going to be shot down at one time or the other. Just get back up, brush yourself off, and try again. Rejection happens for a lot of reasons, but seldom because you aren't good enough. If it happens, don't take it personally. It just means you aproached the wrong person. But if you don't take the chance you will never be able to perfect your social skills and it will end up costing you more in the end. Trust me, rejection never killed anyone, so there isn't anything to fear about it. It may sting a little, but if you build a wall to protect yourself no one can reach out to you either. Good luck out there Kiddo.

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