How many days a week do you see your SO?

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How many days a week do you see your SO?
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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 9:34am

The reason I am asking is because my SO complains all the time that we don't see each other enough, even though I pack a bag and spend the entire weekend with him. What is the norm? Are weekends not enough?

Thanks!

Rb

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Registered: 04-28-2005
Tue, 05-17-2005 - 10:34am
I'm afraid that question is relative..it's what's "too much" or "too little" for the individual. You might be perfectly fine with just the weekends. Apparently that's not enough for him. Hey, at least he WANTS to be with you. There are plenty of women involved with men who'd rather be doing other things. If he wants more time with you, I'd try to be a little more accommodating if I could. Is there a reason why he can't stay with you? I can understand if you're still living at home or something like that. Try to give the guy a *little* more of what he needs...you.
When my SO and I were first getting together, we had to be content with just his days off b/c of his work schedule and living arrangements on both our parts. It sure wasn't enough and left us always wanting more. Now we live together. Sometimes that isn't even enough b/c of his work schedule. At least the living arrangements aren't in the way anymore, lol. Good luck. Becky
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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 1:33pm

ITA. It's all relative. Before my current guy, I'd want to see my bf everyday. With my current guy, I see him Friday night and all day Saturday. And once in awhile on a Sunday. We may see each other for a few mins in the middle of the week, but for the most part we don't.

However, on the other hand. I remember my brother's xgf telling me they see each other EVERY DAY!!!

What matters is, why don't YOU care/want to see him more than the weekend? What are your reasons? Does he expect you to go see him? I know my friend would drive an hour to go see her xbf, a lot during the week, and yet, he'd never go see her. AFter awhile, she just quit going to go see him and he complained, yet, never made a move himself to go see her. So, do tell more. :)

~PG

~pineapple_girl

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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 3:27pm

It's all dependent on the couple...their situation, schedules, geography, etc.


We spend Wednesday nights together at my house, sometimes Mondays as well.

Steffy
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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 5:11pm

Well, I never really had a SO that wanted to see me so much either-lol. I'm just used to getting together with past bf's on the weekends. I still live at home,so we both prefer the privacy of his place.
Don't get me wrong... I am TOTALLY smitten by my man, and I have been taught that it's better to leave a guy wanting more. After reading your comments now, I am def going to work in a day or two in during the week, I miss him alot too.

Thanks everyone for all the input!!!;0)

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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 5:24pm

Make him come see you. lol. Who cares if you live at home. Heck, at least he can build a r'ship with your folks.

Seriously, I would have him come see you, so you're not doing all the driving (I"m assuming you live far enough that it's more than a walk).

BTW, both bf and I lived at home (up until this weekend. lol). And although strange, since we're in our 30's, however, we both have a WONDERFUL r'ship with both set of parents because of it. I'm grateful. Had we both lived out of the parental homes, I doubt either one of us would be as close as we are with each other's families.

Good luck!

~pineapple_girl

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Wed, 05-18-2005 - 6:01pm
I don't really think there is a "norm". People are different in the amount of togetherness they need in a relationship. Maybe he is feeling insecure and just needs some reassurance. My SO and I live about 1 hour away from each other and generally only get the weekends together and I know we both would like to spend more time together, but it doesn't mean that it is going to be the same for everyone.