how soon did you know it was right?

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Registered: 09-27-2004
how soon did you know it was right?
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Mon, 11-14-2005 - 12:59am
To those of you who know that they have found the right one or have been with the right one for awhile......How soon into dating did you know that this person was right for you? I may be crazy since I've had several failed r'ships in the past and I told myself I would be really careful this time around....I met a man about a month ago at a singles party and unfortunately he's in the navy and had to leave for 3 weeks after the first time we met. We hit it off instantaneously so he called me the next day and made it a point to keep in touch via email and phone calls on the ship. As soon as he got back we went on our first date which was Thursday. He took me to a really nice restaurant and we had a great time and then we talked on the phone a couple of times and today hung out for the afternoon and evening at his place and he cooked me a nice dinner. He's so easy to be around with that I feel like I've known him for a long time now and we mesh really well together so far and the only reservation I have is the fact that he's in the navy and will be gone for several months next year and will consistently be leaving here and there for short trips during the year. Other than that he's been wonderful and I really like him a lot. I know it's way too early to tell and I have to give it more time but I'm starting to get those feelings like you know that it's right. I know that him being gone is something I'm going to have to think about, but this just feels really right to me at the moment and that feeling seems to be pretty strong. How many of you have felt that feeling of "just knowing" so early on into dating. Maybe I'm just crazy and too hopeful since I've had so many r'ships go wrong, dating the wrong men and the works all of my life that I can't distinguish between wrong and right but it certainly feels really right at least now.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 11:00am
I am with what you said. That is something I tend to do often. Look at the flaws and ask myself can I deal with this day in and day out. My current guy has a lot of qualities of my ex and at first glance I was like run. But, upon thinking of it he had all the things I liked and enjoyed. So I have stuck around and those things I do not like I constanly ask myself can I live with this. You know how he is can you deal with it on a full-time basis. Right now it is maybe because I am so comfortable with my single parent home and doing as I choose but in yrs to come I think if I had to do the living together again he would be fine. He already lets me know the things he would do around the house which I love now because when he comes to stay he does it. I am just not to the point of sharing my space full time. But, look at his flaws (he is somewhat a perfectionist and neat freak) but knowing I can live with it because he tells me all the time. I know that is how you are and this is how I am so this will be something I know will be my sole responsibility.

Marie

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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 2:01pm
It seems to me that this guy so far is right for me in a lot of different ways and the more I go out with him or talk to him it seems to reaffirm my thoughts, I begin to like him more and more each time I see him. The only issue so far is the navy thing but if he's right for me and I know it in my heart I will wait for him because finding really good men that feel right to you is extremely hard to come by and I know this because I've had 14 years or so of dating/r'ship experience with MANY different men and none of them have been the one or worked for whatever reason. It will be a difficult thing for me to deal with his absence but when the time comes and I find that he's still right for me in my heart then I will do my best to overcome this difficulty. For now I'm going with the flow and my intuition, heart and mind is saying continue to see him and then determine how you feel once he leaves.

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