How to take a break

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Registered: 03-22-2006
How to take a break
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Wed, 03-22-2006 - 8:41am

Hello all, I'd appreciate any advice anyone could give me.

I was seeing this guy who just got out of a long-term relationship. Basically, we took things too fast and he realized he needed to take some time to himself. We get along really well, we both know we're so good for each other...it's not me and I know it. When you get out of a long-term relationship, you need some time to yourself to get your head on straight again. He never took that and now he wants to feel like he's free for a little while...I can understand that very well. So we took some time off and then started hanging out again. But I see ourselves taking things too quickly again and I think it's wearing on his nerves. I think we need another break. But how do I distance myself from him? I don't want him to think I'm done with him. Should I say anything to him or should I just distance myself without saying anything? thanks!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 10:10am

irieday...

Pianoguy admires you. Simply because you can see a potential problem occurring a 2ND TIME and want to take steps to 'avoid it?'

The best suggestion I can give you is to limit yourselves to 2 visits per week...and put a 30 minute limit on all your phone calls with him. This way...you've got stuff to do and talk about at a later date.

It might take the 2 of you a few weeks to "get into the groove" (quoting the Madonna tune here)...but if you employ the "less is more" idea...you'll probably avoid getting bored with each other too quickly?

Here's hoping???

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-22-2006
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 10:30am
thanks so much for the advice! I do see that we just need time -- he needs to miss me more ;) I think it'll work in the long run, but I don't want him to think I'm bailing out on him. I'll give it a try - thanks again pianoguy!