How you do know?

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Registered: 05-16-2004
How you do know?
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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 11:35pm
I have not dated in a long while so this this why i am asking.I have meet someone who is younger than me and very cute.He works in my building where i live.Today we took a smoke break that lasted over two hours.
All we did was talk and i swear he is interested butnot sure.He was flirting that much i know.So do i ask him out or wait for him to make a move?
God i feel like i am fifteen again.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Thu, 05-12-2005 - 8:01am
I think if you're friendly enough and flirty enough, he should get that hint and ask you out. That is, if he is truly interested, available and mature enough, then he should be the one to pursue things further.
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Registered: 01-06-2004
Thu, 05-12-2005 - 8:10am
I totally agree. Even shy guys will ask you out if you indicate your single and receptive. And if they are soo shy they can't, well, do you really want to date a guy that doesn't even have the guts to ask you out?
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Registered: 04-28-2005
Thu, 05-12-2005 - 9:41am
Boy, that was some smoke break!! lol I am involved with a man 10yrs my junior, the most satisfying relationship of my entire life. This has just worked. What you have to know is that men flirt, period. I know there are going to be people to tell you to go ahead and make the first move..personally, I wouldn't do it. Men like the thrill of the chase. The hunt. If he's really interested in you he will let you know. If you do feel like you need to take the lead here, ask him for coffee, or out to lunch. Something simple. Then I'd drop hints about a certain club you'd like to go to or something along those lines. A movie you've been dying to see. If he doesn't pick up on these hints he's either stupid or he just may not be that interested. You could drop those hints the next time y'all take a smoke break. See if he jumps on it. If you're sending signals that you're interested he'd have to be a clod not to pick up on them...good luck. I wish you the best. Becky
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Registered: 07-24-2004
Fri, 05-13-2005 - 3:56pm
although i agree with a lot of what these ppl are saying,I think i need to emphasize that you have to do more than just flirt back a lot to let him know you're interested...Guys can be wonderful, but they can also be VERY dense- don't catch obvious things or get what ur trying to tell them if u don't say it right out...So, while you don't need to come right out and say <"I'm interested in you" you could ask things like if he's single, what he likes to do on weekends, where he hangs out a lot, or something casual like "it'd be cool to hang out sometime "esp. if you guys have things in common...
But if he still doesn' t take the hint, then you'll have to be direct (if you really want to date him) and say something like, "you know, i'd love it if you asked me out"...on the other hand, if you know u guys will spend more time together at work in the future, then u might want to wait it out and see if he eventually asks you out or asks for your #...
If not, I'd make my move...I've missed out on potential relationships by being too scared to make the first move...Some ppl will tell you u must wait for the male to initiate but it's all good and nice to believe that, but it's more a principle ppl hold that's traditional and chivalrous, in my opinion. But it's not wrong or even counter to tradtion if a girl casually asks a guy to hang out...if she initiates kissing/making out or is constantly calling him or asking him out, then yeah, i'd say hold back...Personally, I love it when the guy is the one who calls, at least at first...
Well, good luck!
BUT just to warn you, some guys are flirtatious w/o being interested...there are flirts out there who just do that for fun w/o wanting anything serious...If that's the case- & you can usually tell pretty soon if someone's a flirt if they flirt w/ girls besides you, frequently, etc.- then I would have fun w/ him, but don't play the flirt card too hard and don't expect anything from him...
Hope u keep us posted!
~LL