how young is too young

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Registered: 03-10-2005
how young is too young
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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 12:24pm
there is this guy that asked me out we talked he came to the house and we hung out had a good time. he told me he was 23 i'm 27 i'm thinking he is young but....the last guy i talked to was 25. we talked got along great then he told me he had to tell me something and please don't be mad.....he's 20! i kind of freaked out that is young, but i was enjoying his company it didn't even seem like he was that young , he said he dated older women alot of the time. we ended up haveing sex which was prettty good. when he went down that was not a boy doing that he was better than the 30 year old i lived with the past 5 years. the next day i told him we couldn't talk he was too young i asked a few people for advice they said age shouldn't matter as long as he is legal, but i'm not sure i agree what do you think
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Registered: 06-14-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 2:08pm
are you talking about the 20 year old or the 23 year old?
there is a huge difference between 20 and 23.
i wouldnt date someone 7 years younger than me in my 20's- but i have dated someone 6 years younger in my mid thirties.
i think men who are in the early 20's still have a lot of growing up to do, but it also depends on what you are looking for, if its just a fling hey why not, if its a relationship, i would really see how comfortable i am with the age difference.
you have to do what makes you comfortable in the situation.
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Registered: 05-04-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 2:13pm

Basically the choice is yours on what YOU feel comfy with. I wouldn't feel comfortable dating anyone more than a year younger than me.

And honestly, age has nothing to do with how good a person is in the sexual department. lol. The older I tend to date, the worse they seem to be. lol. Oh well.

If you don't feel comfy dating him, then don't. For me, with the ages you listed that's WAY too much of a difference. Mostly because at 27, I was divorced twice. So, 20 is light years from my actual age. Even now, at 30, I probably wouldn't date a man younger than me, because of what I've been through and my life experiences.

~pineapple_girl

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Registered: 01-21-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 6:51pm

Well, I'm not sure I totally agree with the other posters... but I guess I don't disagree either. In my opinion, I don't think a person's age really matters. What matters to me is a person's place in life (and I don't mean a person's wealth). I mean that if someone is 22, has graduated school, works full time, and is stable emotionally and financially; that person would probably have trouble dating a 30 year old who was still in school or living with his/her parents. So, if this guy is 20, but he's sort of at the same station in life that you are, I see no reason why you shouldn't date him if you like him.

I guess all that really matters is how you feel; I wouldn't worry about what other people are thinking or anything like that... I doubt a ton of people are going to be going around surveying your ages anyway. :) Just my two cents.

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Registered: 03-10-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 7:33pm
thanks for the post!! sstill debating on the issue i don't think i ready for serious just yet haven't been long gotten out of that but yet i don't want anything to casual either