I am sick over this

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Registered: 07-22-2008
I am sick over this
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Sun, 03-07-2010 - 7:23pm

I posted on another board to get some opinions...


I started talking to J for several months. He was on a break from babymama (child is 2 y/o). We have a lot in common and had an instant connection. I was hesitant to start a relationship because he seemed like he might decide to be back with his b.m. and I had gone thru that before with a man. I was upfront and we struck up a friendship. We quickly had feelings for each other and did not act on it romantically

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 12:17am

>>I am wondering if our little "fight" or talk annoyed him?<<

Can a fight or harsh words drive someone away or end a relationship? Absolutely! If the blow was low enough or the words rude enough.

So, what hurtful thing did you say to him? It's hard to know if this is a dealbreaker for him when you've left out what you've said.

That aside, this whole situation is far too convuluted. He's involved with his ex....you're seeing other men. Why not try again when you're both in a situation to just see each other?

Oh, and I don't like the term baby-momma. It's extremely disrespectful.

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Registered: 07-22-2008
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 9:27pm

When he started kissing me and cuddling with me, I was angry and pushed him away. I then insinuated that he was doing that just because he wanted to leave early. He was angry saying that I always mistrust his intentions...that he was kissing me because he likes me and cares about me.


I dont like the term babymama either...it is the term the 2 people in that relationship prefer. He and she both use that term. They like it.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 11:44pm

>>When he started kissing me and cuddling with me, I was angry and pushed him away. I then insinuated that he was doing that just because he wanted to leave early<<

This makes no sense to me. I don't understand how you link kissing an cuddling with him leaving early. And I don't understand why you'd get mad at him over it.

>> He was angry saying that I always mistrust his intentions<<

If you misunderstand his intentions too often (and get mad about it) I can understand that he'd be exasperated.

I can only guess that he feels the two of you are unable to understand each other.

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Registered: 07-22-2008
Wed, 03-10-2010 - 9:29pm

Basically, I did not trust him. I was insinuating that he was hugging and kissing me because he wanted a ride home early and for me not to be upset about it.


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Registered: 09-06-2007
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 11:34am
If you mistrust a guy then you dump him pronto. Actions and words have to match up.
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Registered: 05-03-2010
Mon, 05-03-2010 - 8:19pm
i read your problem and have had a similar experience. may i ask how everything has worked out so far?
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