I got the hots for his friend...
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I got the hots for his friend...
| Fri, 05-05-2006 - 7:43pm |
I've been we the same guy for 2 years 3 this November. We have lived together for over a year and half and we just bought a house. Now, when we started talking I would meet him at places and sometimes his work partner would be there. At first i didn't think anything of him, he was always in uniform. My bf no longer works at that company but I now and I see this guy from time to time. Everytime i see him i think about him almost all day. He is still friends with my bf and he has always been very respectful of me. My thing is that I've been finding excuses to talk to him, and I blush when Im infront of him, I can't look at him directly. I love my bf very much but this weird attraction is taking my focus off my relationship. We are not compatible and I don't know how he feels about me out all, but the fact that im considering this has me worried. Any advice out there?
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| Fri, 05-05-2006 - 11:02pm |
The grass always looks greenner on the other side of the fence, as they say. Think about what you have in your current relationship. Would you be willing to jeopardize that for an attraction? Yes, his friend is attractive and such, but is that enough to think about further pursuing this infactuation? Think about your BF's feelings and how he'd feel if he becomes aware of what's going on. Think about what you'd think if your BF gets the hots for a friend of yours. Spend more time away from the places this guys hangs out, get a hobbie or get busy.
| Sun, 05-07-2006 - 1:47am |
If it's just a physical attraction, I think that's pretty normal. Just because we are with someone and we love them doesn't mean that we will never find other people attractive. But, if you are contemplating doing something about the attraction, then I'd say you need to look at your relationship and how you really feel about the person you are with. Are you not fully happy, are you not getting what you need from the relationship? If not, then maybe it can still be worked out with some communication between each other. If you find you can't or don't want to work it out with the your bf, then it may be time to move on regardless of any possibility with his friend or not. But, I can see you have a lot to consider, since not only do you two live together, you own the house together. You don't have to rush into anything with anyone, or make any rash dicisions right now. Just try to think about what you want and where you are at and whether you want to work on it or not. You'll come up with an answer when the time is right. A friend of mine a long time ago gave me what I thought was some really good advice and I'll pass it onto you. If you have doubts, you have them for a reason. So, think about it and when you feel sure, without a doubt, then proceed. Good luck to you!
