I love you's, but no relationship

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Registered: 07-07-2011
I love you's, but no relationship
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 3:47am
I've been dealing with this guy for a little over a yr. He claims its monagamus, but he isnt ready for a relationship. We tell each other that we love one another several times daily. We have just moved almost 1000 miles away from each other for school, and I'm not secure with our "lovership". Should I be?
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 3:28pm

I think you need to find out more about why he feels that he is not ready for a relationship--is it that he wants to wait until he finishes school or some other reason?

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Registered: 06-03-2009
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 8:48pm

So he is happy to have sex with you and only you, but he won't call you his girlfriend?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-08-2011 - 2:05am

I think it is telling how you used the word "dealing" with this guy rather than "dating."

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Fri, 07-08-2011 - 7:31am

Hi and welcome to the board.


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Registered: 12-18-2009
Sat, 07-09-2011 - 11:57am
" Anyway what kind of relationship can it be from 1000 miles away anyway?"
I have nothing more to say.
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Registered: 05-19-2011
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 11:49pm

I wouldn't feel comfortable either!

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 07-25-2011 - 2:06pm

You don't have a relationship. You're wasting your time with someone because of a few simple words.

I think it's long past time to say "goodbye"... how much longer do you want to waste with someone you aren't even dating??