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| Wed, 05-11-2005 - 1:51pm |
Please don't be thinking I'm a lesbian or anything, but I have had sex with another women and it was just an experimental thing. Anyways, I had been dating my boyfriend for only 2 months then, and I told him about it happening. He was very angry at me because he considers it cheating. Well I respect that. I have been with him now for a year and 9 months and just last night he brings it back up and he thinks I'm going to cheat on him again, and maybe even with a man. The way he was talking to me was very awful, like I was a slut or something. It hurt my feelings. We talked about it for 2 hours and I told him I have been faithful since that incendent. I haven't done anything to hurt him since then and he don't believe me. He told me he doesn't have any trust in me. My question is, how am I going to gain his trust back so we can keep this relationship pure? I love him soooo much and he told me he still loves me, but there is no trust coming from him.

My two cents........
You can't give him trust, to trust you with. HE himself needs to learn how to trust you. If after almost two years, this just started coming up again, someting else is going on.
If HE can't forgive you, HE can't ever learn to trust you again. Except for you being honest about mostly everything and ACTING trustworhty, I'm sorry, but there is nothing you can do, it's all in his court now. No amount of I'm sorry's will fix it. HE needs to let it go.
And if he doesnt', HE needs to end the r'ship. And if he's not willing to do either, you'll need to end the r'ship. hugs.
~pineapple_girl
~pineapple_girl
This happened over a year and a half ago...and he just brought it back up??
Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?
Hey there,
I dont mean to sound pesimistic about ur relationship and granted i dont know the depth of it for the past two years but im definately thinking there is more to this than the single incident that happened two years ago. This is his out. you havent done anything wrong since and this is his way of getting out of the relationship the easiest way he can think of. Men tend to be unconfrontational when it comes to someone they care about and letting them go in the most unpainful way they know how. If i were you, id confront him with this and ask him what his real reason is, because this one is a load of crap.
MISSY
nena
I'm sorry , but in my opinion...
You had only been DATING for two months. There were no promises of love and forever. He has no right to criticize you for being single. You did more than most, you were honest and shared this information with him. (Why I don't know...) But you did.
Your relationship with him now, have there been promises and committment? If not, tell him to back off. This is your life, your decisions, and if he isn't ready to make a committment to you that entitles him to be harsh, then let him know. Set boundries!