I need some suggestions please.
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| Sun, 10-02-2005 - 5:32pm |
I am really getting very tired of this emotional roller coaster my boyfriend is putting me on.
Have any of you ever dated a moody man?
Again, he is playing this distancing thing. Last week was wonderful. Everytime things start to go really well between us, he pulls this. I haven't seen him since Wednesday night/Thursday morning and we usually get together on Sunday night after his kids leave. I called him and he basically said he was going on a motorcycle ride tonight with his friends, he didn't want company later, doesn't feel well, etc. I told him that I'm disappointed that I wouldn't be seeing him tonight and he didn't even reply. So we just hung up after saying a wimpy goodbye.
I decided to call him back and ask him to be very honest with me and tell me what's the matter. His mood swings are just so dramatic. He said he is just tired and that nothing is wrong. He said he knows he is being distant and that's just the way he is. I asked him if he felt he could talk to me if something was wrong and he said, "definitely". I told him to have a good night and hung up.
Something is going on and he just won't tell me. I do think he gets depressed on Sundays as I do quite often. In fact we both have that in common. But, the problem is that seeing him helps me and he often wants to be alone. Coupled with the fact that he is working long hours and will be for the next two weeks or so.
I don't know what to do if he won't talk to me. I love him so much.

Look at what you get out of it, where you stand on his priority list (with kids involved, this is an important one), how you feel when you're with him and why you are really in this relationship. Is it more or less than what you believe you deserve? Do you believe you're worthy of a good, stable relationship? You may have to let him go a little and see what happens. This can be really scary but also very refreshing for you and maybe him, too.
my significant other is the same way....kind of. he would spend 3 to 7 days with me and after that he'd leave and doesn't want to see me for a week. i was annoyed at first because i really like spending time with him, and vice versa. whenever i want to see him, he'd say that time apart is healthy for our relationship. it's a subtle way of saying....i want time alone (to watch football) and hang out with the boys. men like their space.
how long have you guys been together by the way?