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| Sun, 10-30-2005 - 9:15pm |
what I got for it. My story is in "taking it to the next level." I found out the guy that I have a date with in two weeks has been going out with someone else. Maybe more than one person. The guy that set us up is supposed to be a mutual friend, but he's really only a friend to the guy I want to meet. This so-called friend that set us up (I'll call the snake) never wanted to set us up in the first place. My guess is that he didn't want to lose me as a occasional sex partner (he has been using me for sex for about a year).
I had been IMing and e-mailing this guy for a couple of weeks now and I felt that the talks were really going well, but he now seems cold. I contacted him by IM this morning and his response was "I have to go now, sorry, but I will be on later." Well, he was on later, but failed to answer a message I sent to his personal e-mail address asking how he was doing. Nothing. No reply.
He did do this last week though (waited 2 days to get back to me). When I called him on it, he apologized.
Anyway, so here we are. I'm supposed to go out with this guy in 2 weeks and this mess is going on. I don't trust the snake. The snake has been asking me about my intentions with this guy (i.e. if I plan to have sex with him) and I just don't trust him. My guess is the snake told this guy I was only after one thing and he probably told this guy I was whore. Even though the snake is a wanna be player that sleeps with anything that crawls, as long as she's black. Seriously. And the snake is very slick: when I asked him if I should e-mail this guy my phone number, the snake answered "yes."
So, what should I do? Should I ask this guy what's going on? or not? Should I confront the snake? Or should I just sit back and wait for the other shoe to drop (for this guy to cancelt the date on me)?
All advice appreciated.

my two cents,
get BOTH men out of your life and move on. a man can't "use" you for a year. at that point, you are ALLOWING him to use you. WHY! as for the guy you're supposed to go out on a date, um, him dating around isn't a crime, however, if you don't trust the snake, why would you go out with his friend?
i'm not sure how old you are, but when i was in my late teens, my bf at the time bragged about me and well, they started TRYING to pass me around. I was young, stupid. I had slept with my bf, and then his friend (cheating), and then I started having their friends hitting on me, etc. I guess, it got around I was some whore, so they'd hit me up.
So, get out of the situation completely. stop talking to the new guy, stop interacting and having sex with the snake. don't put yourself in this situation at all.
good luck.