I spoke too soon

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Registered: 06-30-2003
I spoke too soon
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Wed, 05-04-2005 - 10:41am
Hi All:
So this is the deal. LIke I mentioned yesterday I got back with my ex and verything is great blah, blah, blah. Il ove this guy more than anything in this world. When we were first together he was so wonderful to me like a knight in shining armor. Once we broke up he was a jerk. Slamming doors, cursing at me, hanging up on me, telling me awful things, caring less if I cried a river in front of him, ignoring me at clubs, etc. I accepted this because I was like well we're broken up and he never treated like htis when we were together. I felt deep in my heart that I deserved it because well I was so mean to him when we were together, I would use him for his money, insult his friends, tell him he was a loser drunk even though he never drank after rehab, take him to clubs that I knew my ex would be at b/c I was so infatuated with my ex., get text messages from other guys, well you name it and I did it...I was heartless so I accepted his anger once we broke up. When we were apart I suffered and worked on my ways. I really wanted to get down to the core as to why I would treat someone I loved that way. I received a lot of clarity. I worked on so many aspects of my life and a so much of a better person in my eyes and in those of the loved ones around me. Anyhow, my b/f works crazy hours! I mean I work 10-6 M-F he works 2-11 PM M-F and then Sat like 7AM -7PM then plays football all day sunday on a league. He comes to see me after work during the week for maybe like a half hr. On the weekend we spend all our time together once he is out of work or done with football. Well yesterday he was supposed to come over and he was like how his frined blew his back out and he needed to go help him sheet rock the apt. I said why is he sheet rocking if he cant even walk? COmmon sense is wait until you are better to fix an apt not when you blow ur back out. My B/F was like he will come by later to see me . I was like i'm going ot bed he was like your a child. I felt bad so I called him like around 11:30 and he didn't answer so I called again and still no answer. I texted him and I received a return receipt but he didnt text me back. I was furious!!!!!! So I drove by his house b/c I was like he will probably say that he just went home and fell asleep b/c all guys run that line! SO I drive by and he had just pulled up. So I say what's up, why didn't you answer before? He said I left my phone in the car b/c I didnt want to deal with your babiness. I was like okay that's real mature. He was like you think I'm always doing wrong yet I never cheated on you. This is true but if you give a guy too much space they will cheat...proven fact! So I said you know what goodnight. THen when i got home I called him and said I know yougot my text b/c I got a return receipt so why are you lying? HE was like I'm not lying and think what you want. I didn't come back to this relationship to deal with your insecurity. I was like what?I said I thought he was being one sided and not puttting himself in my shoes! We said goodnight and that was it. I'm hurt and full of doubt because I think this sounds suspicious. WHat do you all think?

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Registered: 04-30-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 5:02pm

(not trying to step on CL's toes)


You




my pet!

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 5:15pm
Thanks Cher:
I just feel that some people are just raw. I understand that people have different views and that's why I post on this MB B-U-T there's a way to say things. Like just a little more tactful would be good. I mean some people like harsh love not me though. Hugs!
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Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 5:23pm

Ladies -


Please remember that this is a support board. While there are times when "tough love" is appropriate and even necessary, we all need to be careful that things do not become personal attacks.


If you feel that you have been attacked by another member, please report the post and IGNORE it. All members are responsible for the content of their posts, regardless of who begins an argument.


Thank you all for offering such insight into the murky world of relationships!


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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 5:28pm
You're right post police : D
We're all here to help one another out that's it!
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 6:02pm
I sent you an email.....






my pet!




my pet!

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Registered: 04-30-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 7:07pm

I agree, and I do want to apologize if I was one that came off WAY too harsh for you.


Also, to protect yourself, later, you may want to write that you're not one that can handle harshness, at least that tells ppl to be nice. or at least tactful.


hugs.






my pet!




my pet!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 12:16am
Thanks Cher, being a CL before you so understand. You have helped her a lot with showing the dynamics of a message board. I know you do not step on my toes but knowing Steff I sure you did not hers either. Again thanks you did great with this post and the others.
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Registered: 09-30-2004
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 10:24am

You're right...no toes stepped on here!!

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?

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