I think I found mine....

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Registered: 06-18-2005
I think I found mine....
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Fri, 11-13-2009 - 12:45am

I think I found the guy I would love to spend the rest of my life with. It's still kinda early since we're only 4 months into our relationship but things are great right now. They always have been great.

We both met each other when we weren't planning to meet anyone except our coworkers. We were always talking and found we had similar stances on many topics. We clicked artistically as we were in charge of helping to produce a show. Things have always been great between us, even when things weren't great on the road during the show's tour. We've been there for each other during the crappy times in the short time we've known each other. I'm grateful to have him in my life and I look forward to sharing many more wonderful times with him. We talk a lot and are open about everything because we feel that communication and honesty is huge to the success of any friendship, let alone romantic relationship.

I am not so naive to think that there is no way this wonderful thing could go south quickly. Instead I am hopeful that I will be lucky enough to have the opportunity to continue to have a great man in my life.

What about others out there? Have they found someone really special? Or are they content playing the field? Or was there a time when you knew it would or would not work out with your partner?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2006
Fri, 11-13-2009 - 9:01am

After about 4 months of meeting my fiance, I somehow just knew this was it. It's a different feeling than falling in love, but it's one of those thing where you know when you know.

The only thing that I can suggest is to sit back and let things play out. Having less expectations in my opinion sets you up a lot better than having expectations, if that makes any sense. Sounds like you got into something when you least expect it, which is a good thing. I can also tell you that if this is meant to be, it will happen. Let him express how he feels about a commitment or future with you, normally it takes guys a little while longer than us. Good Luck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-18-2005
Fri, 11-13-2009 - 10:16am

Thanks for your reply. I'm quite fortunate because he has mentioned, without making a big production of it, that he can see us together in the future.

Since I don't know what the future holds, I don't cling to it because I agree with you. I think it's better to have mild expectations regarding commitment and future and be happily surprised instead of having unnecessarily high expectations and having them shattered and broken. At least I think that's what you meant.

Anyway, I don't have any drastic plans in store for the next few months. I just plan to enjoy his company.

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Registered: 07-21-2007
Wed, 11-25-2009 - 8:18pm
I've been with my bf for just over 4 months,but we've known each other for 5 yrs.We used to work together back in 2004.Then he left and we had no contact right up until this past july.Iam in the same boat where you just know.The conversations him and I have had,you would think we've been together for years.We've talked about kids a house,moving to BC,the works.It may seem early for us to be talking about heavy things like that,but it just seems natural for us.And comfortable.And were on the same page with everything.We just seem to complete each other.And I love the fact that,despite him obviously being a guy hes not afraid to talk about marriage and kids and everything,hes not your typical guy.And hes clearly ready to settle down.We know were in it for the long haul! lol And we both love it.And the feelings I have toward him are unlike any I've ever had in my life...and I was once engaged.I thought I knew love until now.But it really is indescribable.

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