I wanna get with his Best Friend!

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Registered: 10-24-2005
I wanna get with his Best Friend!
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Sat, 11-26-2005 - 2:34pm
I have been together with a really nice guy for about three months. Our relationship has been moving very fast (a little too fast for me, but that's another post.) I really like the guy but a big problem is that I think I have a thing for his best friend. My bf is a little overweight but working on it and will get there. We have been spending a lot of time with his best friend who's marriage is nearly over and I am just finding myself really attracted to his friend. Last night my bf and I were visiting him and my bf was the babysitter while his friend and I got drunk! And man did we have fun just hanging out. He's totally my type, fit (over the past few months he's dropped 50 lbs,) makes me laugh, and has the nicest butt I have ever seen! Man can he fill out a pair of Wranglers! I don't think I would ever have the balls to do something with my boyfriend's best friend but man I wish I did. I feel so bad having these thoughts and it is almost to the point where I don't want to hang out with him. Help!
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Registered: 10-21-2004
Sun, 11-27-2005 - 9:57pm

Ok, since you asked for help, here it is:

a) put the "shoe on the other foot" ... if your BF had a thing for your best friend, how GREAT would you feel about that? Not very, right?
b) sounds like you like that your BF is a "really nice guy" but you're not that attracted to him, perhaps because of his weight. Reality is, if after only three months of dating, you're ALREADY thinking about someone else, and feeling attracted to someone else, do HIM a favor and break it off ... before the relationship gets TOO invested. He deserves better (sorry, but that's the truth)
c) What's worse is that you're attracted to his BEST FRIEND ... double ouch. If he found out about these feelings you have for his friend, that would be very hurtful. Do him a favor, end it now.
d) His best friend's marriage is "nearly over" ... hon, that's like being a "little bit pregnant." Fact is, the guy is still married. He's MARRIED. Not a little bit married, ok? Anything less than divorced, or AT LEAST, legally separated makes him off-limits. Don't go there. Boyfriend or not.
e) Why in the world would you be attracted to a guy who favors getting drunk over being responsible for his child, and pawning off his kid to your BF to be "babysitter" for the evening? That's just messed up. Sorry, but if that's "your type" ... I'd re-evaluate.

Honestly, I feel bad for your BF. He gets babysitting duty while his GF and best friend (father to the child, whom he should be responsible for) get to hang out and get drunk. He must be a "really nice guy" ... IMO, too nice.

End it with your BF, he deserves a GF who wants to be with him. Secondly, disassociate with the best friend. It is not healthy to form an attachment to a married men. Regardless of how "almost over" his marriage is, unless he's divorced, he's not available to you.