I'm crushing on my guy friend! :-/

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Registered: 02-08-2007
I'm crushing on my guy friend! :-/
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Mon, 10-31-2011 - 4:11pm

It's been a looong while since I've posted. So here goes:

I've known this guy for a while - say 3 years - as friends. We're both part of the same charity and see each other every now and then.

I've always thought he was cute, but definitely not my type in that he was quiet, not so aggressive...and didn't like me...or so I think...?

And then recently, about 6 months ago, I started having feelings for him. I started right at the moment that I was trying to set him up with someone I knew. As I began to tell her how great he is.. I started feeling something. I either got jealous, or was thinking, if he's this great...why don't I like him? Why can't this work out with him and I? I usually go for guys I can't have or those that are wrong for me, but this guy is just genuinely a nice guy.

I became aware that he and I got along really well, we'd stay up till 5 in the morning doing nothing but talking, drinking,

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 11-01-2011 - 11:32am

Totally agree... I'm still friends with a guy I dated many years ago. It takes time to get over if you have feelings for one another and a relationship doesn't work out, but a strong friendship can survive it.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 11-01-2011 - 9:02am

It is up to you to decide if the risks are worth it. You may regret not saying anything if he ends up dating someone else.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 10-31-2011 - 4:18pm

Well, I don't have an easy answer for you... Decisions like these are a toss-up. You're right, there are pros and cons. It is up to you to decide if the risks are worth it. You may regret not saying anything if he ends up dating someone else.