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|Wed, 01-20-2010 - 1:34pm|
I think I need to talk to my boyfriend. I am divorced - and TERRIFIED, absolutely TERRIFIED of getting married again. TERRIFIED. I don't want to do it anytime soon. And I think he is more ready to go. We've only been dating for 6 months, but he says he doesn't date casually. He dates for long-term. He's one of the Good Guys. Responsible, sweet, kind, patient. Likes to garden. He has children from his previous marriage.
I think I just need to tell him - I PANIC about marriage. I am NOT READY. I've only been divorced a year - and I am NOT READY. How do I say this to him tactfully. I really think this will be a deal-breaker for him. He wants marriage and stability. He wants something he can count on.
I just want to breathe. I'm TERRIFIED of marriage. My last marriage was so awful. Not just the divorce, but the MARRIAGE.
So how do I express this to him? We are both in our 30's. We are both mature - we've both seen a LOT of stuff and had people break our hearts and let us down. Promises have been broken. People have been unfaithful. I just can't do it again now - not now - not in one year - not in two years. I just need to tell him and get it off my chest.
How can I say this to him tactfully and not hurt him?