Inter-racial/Inter-Faith Dating
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Inter-racial/Inter-Faith Dating
| Thu, 05-12-2005 - 9:33am |
What are your thoughts? Have you done it? How did your family react? Does this play a big part on future aspect, i.e. having children


I've been in many inter-racial r'ships. I don't have any probs with it. My folks haven't. My friends haven't. Their parents haven't (thank gawd). Although, sometimes, there were cultural differences and/or communication problems due to the language.
however, my grandmother on the other hand.....regarding certain races......my family doesn't accept, like, or want. It's very strange if you ask me.
As for inter-religious, I've had that a few times. In my life, it causes a LOT of problems. Even my xh would jokingly call me a heathen, and said I forced him to stop being Christian (whatevers!!) No one can force you to stop being something. They can force you to stop going to church or openly practicing, but what you believe is what you believe. He said I wouldn't go to church with him and hence, the heathen remarks. I dont' even kow what heathen means. lol. BTW, I fully supported and suggested he go to church himself. He never did. Not once. I even suggested and supported him doing Bible study as he did before. Nope, never did. Never even looked into it.
I will most likely be in an inter-religious r'ship for the rest of my life. Why? Because, you don't find too many athiests out there. However, I get along best with people who are open and accept my beliefs (as I fully accept theirs), and those that don't do the church thing. I'm not against it, but like I said, I get along best with.......non-practicing religious ppl.
Oh, my folks don't care. Heck, my brother was dating a Mormon and thinking of converting. lol. I can't say the rest of my family really cares. Their all pretty open about that. Just not so open about the race issue. But in my life, I could give a damn what they think.
~pineapple_girl
I've never been in an inter-racial or inter-faith relationship, not becasue I wouldn't the opportunity never really presented itself.
I agree with pineapple girl that socially speaking an inter-racial relationship is probably more difficult because there are still a lot of REALLY ignorant people out there, but within families I would thing inter-faith would cause more problems.
I was raised Roman-Catholic, but I know longer call myself Catholic or even Christian for that matter, my "religious" beliefs tend toward more philosophical and spiritual then traditionally religious in the US. Think more along the lines of Buddist and Toaist, with a little western Christianity tossed in. :)
I was raised to be very open minded and to look for the good in things and incorporate those things into my life, including people.
The fact I'm no longer Catholic is a bit of a sore spot for my Mom's parents and the fact that I believe in reincarnatin can be a little disturbing to some of my friends. And my sister in law is trying to convert me (very annoying).
I've never attempted to date anyone who is extremely religious because I know it wouldn't work for me. It would bother me to think they thought I was going to hell becasue I didn't go to church or because while I believe Jesus was a wonderful example of how to live I don't believe he was the only son of God or that the Bible is the only devinely inspired book, both of which I have found to be very unsettling to the Christians I've interacted with in close relatinships (good friends, my family). I'd hate the distress it would cause them.
I dated a hispanic guy for a while, I guess he's considered hispanic, he's from Chicago )his Dad was Mexican, his Mm Spanish - never met them) and to be honest I never really thought much of it until I read this. It was a friends with benefits type thing, I think most of my friends and family had a harder time with my "loose morals" then with the fact he was hispanic.
I'd like to think that at some point people wont really think much about race when it comes to these things, but I think that realistically, that's still a long way in the future. At least we seem to be making progress, even if it is only a little at a time.
In many ways I think the religion issue is MUCH more diffiult to overcome, it's so much more a part of who we really are then or race. Many people take it very personally that others disagree witht their beliefs as if somehow anyone not believeing as they do casts doubt on their own faith and is therefore very disconcerting for them.
It seems to me religion, faith, spirituality it all offers comfort regarding the unknown becasue it seeks to offer answers to things that are unknown (e.g., death, heaven, why there is evil, etc.). When people disagree in this area it leads to doubt and that doubt is unsettling, beacsue it is human nature to seek answers to things we don't understand and questions we don't have answers to. It would be like someone suddenly saying that gravity isn't a fact it's a theory and we could be wrong about what creates it so we could all go drifting into space one day if we're wrong and something disrupts gravity that we weren't expecting.
So it seems that more strife is actually caused by differences in faith or lack of it then race.
I was born out of a inter-racial relationship. My mother is white and my father is purto rican. I like to date men that are latin, italian, or white. My dd dad is purto rican.
Now when my grandparents found out my mother was preggo with me they had a fit cause she got preggo by a latin man. But they got over it.
-Michelle