Interesting "friend" situation

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Registered: 03-17-2007
Interesting "friend" situation
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Sun, 01-01-2012 - 3:11pm

I'll try to be as succinct as possible but try to describe my situation as well as possible so that I can get some guidance.

I'm 55. Divorced for more than 2 years, two sons who are out of the picture,

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Registered: 04-15-2004
Sat, 03-10-2012 - 11:17am

Thanks so much for this post. I've gotten to be friends with a peer from another company who lives out of town. We got to be friends, then stepped into the sexual relationship, then he's pulled back to just wanting to be friends- good friends at that! I'm really hoping it will come up again. because I want to be more than friends. I really like this guy & will hope that my patience can result in the same things yours has.

Crossing my fingers anyhow...

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Registered: 03-17-2007
Wed, 03-07-2012 - 8:13am

It does feel better. Surprising how much time I was spending trying to see how to make it happen. whew.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 12:36pm

wow;; good for you and you should be very very proud of yourself.

I hope you stay on course and dont waste time with unavailable women... You might want to do some soul searching and find out why you wanted this unavailable young woman..and why you would expend so much energy on someone who couldnt give you what you needed.. (just saying)..

Take Care

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Registered: 03-17-2007
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 9:29am

Well, I've sort of distanced myself from her. Go to other Yoga studios when I can and it is kind of nice not having to see her and know that nothing will probably ever happen.

That being said, we do txt occasionally but it's fairly neutral.

I do have another "friend" now who is more my age and we are just getting to know each other. Certainly takes the pressure off of the other one.

Thanks to all here for the help and guidance. Very, very useful! Let's just say, I finally saw the future and it was never going to change, so I did something different.

Whew. jp

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 9:02am

Hey Lostman!

Just read the thread, and am now curious.... any further developments??

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Registered: 03-17-2007
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 4:07pm
how true!!
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Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 3:53pm
Don't give up, a more interesting woman might be right around the corner for you. Look at all of us on here, we could practically have our own site
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Registered: 01-02-2008
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 3:50pm

You said something very interesting to me.. You kinda sorta said that this was an easy friendship and all and BINGO. the key to life and all as you know is that nothing comes easy.. and you will have to go out and do the work of dating, etc.etc. to find the ONE..

Yes; lesson learned

take care

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Registered: 03-17-2007
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 2:21pm

Sadly, but wisely, that is what I am going to have to do.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 1:57pm

oh;the pain of liking someone romantically and all they want is a friendship.. BTDT and not doing it again.. Oh; you sound like such a nice guy and if she does decide to leave the boyfriend she is going to need time to heal... and that could take time..
Oh; you

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