is it fate??

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Registered: 05-27-2005
is it fate??
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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 11:41pm
theres this guy who was working at the school store at my school, (he is 2 years older than me) and i always went by and hung out and talked to him (and his friend) while they were working - and i didn't have class. i kept on going back to chat because i thought he was cute. well then he went to a different school/college, and that was that. so 1 year later, i saw him a party and i still thought he was cute, and he was with a friend of mine, so i saw it as my way in. i just walked up and started talking to him, and it turned out well, we exchanged emails and started hanging out a lot. we started dating about 2-3 weeks after meeting again at that party, we gave into commitment and were 'boyfriend&girlfriend'. a month and a half later, he starts acting funny so we getogether and have a tell-all deep conversation, and we decide to stop dating. it was more on his part because he feels that we dont have enough in common -- which is when we realized that we dont really know that much about eachother. but we are still good friends...however that night he told me that he thought i was cute when i came up to the school store. we didnt even know eachother. well, we seem to have this attraction for eachother and like, we both are confused at why we are together because we are SO opposite and our last relationships have been with people totally different than eachother. does anyone believe in this kind of stuff? that it all happens for a reason? please reply with your input on this!! thanks everyone. :) :)
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Registered: 11-23-2005
In reply to: musicfan01
Thu, 11-24-2005 - 11:35am
Musicfan,
Understand that if he doesn't think the two of you can be anything more than "just friends" because of your differences then there may not be any way for you to convince him otherwise. Opposites can attract simply because they are so different from what you are used. And that breath of fresh air can be very intriguing. But what you need to find out is if these differences will be things that are going to get bumpy down the road once the newnewss of the relationship wears off. It is nice to have a lot in common with someone you're with, but it is also nice to be introduced to new things so keep that in mind too. I guess the bottom line is that I think generally after a month and a half someone probably knows if they can see themselves falling in love with the person they're dating. Yes with some people it does take longer, other people fall faster than that. It may just be that he really likes you (or is physically attracted to you) but doesn't see it turning into love.