Jerry McGuire

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Jerry McGuire
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 2:42pm

Am I the only one who thinks that Renee Zelwegger's character in Jerry McGuire is completely pathetic?

I mean how needy and desparate are you when you say, "You had me at, 'Hello'." to a guy who has treated you like garbage?

I heard a couple of women talking about what a romantic movie that was and it just got me thinking about what a horrible example of romance we are setting for young women.

I mean how is it romantic to be someone's doormat? We're telling young women that it is not only exceptable but "romantic" to quit your job and chase after a man who doesn't know you exist, let him treat you like garbage, while you offer your loving support as he goes through a difficult time, only so he can threaten to leave you. Then just as you are finally moving on and trying to pick up the pieces he comes back and it is NOT pathetic, weak, self-destructive, and foolish but "romantic" to willingly offer yourself back up for more abuse at "Hello".

What they should have shown was a year later when they head into divorce court becasue he's still a self-centered prick and she finally gets fed up with him and his lame "you comlpete me" lines of bull.

Sorry, rant over. Thanks I feel much better now. :)

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Registered: 09-15-2005
In reply to: nick91171
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 7:52pm

I am in complete agreement with you. I think movies, songs, books portray a very UNREAL view of what "love" is and what "romance" should be.

We all grew up with it. Why do you think most of us are so screwed up. lol.

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In reply to: nick91171
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 9:47pm

Too true, too true.

I mean I'm all for poetic license and drama, but somebody needs to make sure that young people know that stuff is just that poetry and drama and isn't meant to be taken LITERALLY. As it seems so many do.

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Registered: 05-16-2006
In reply to: nick91171
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 7:13pm

Hey,
and another thing. For all of you who actually think "Pretty Woman" is 'charming'.
Did You forget that she's a whore for a living, and thats how she meets her prince charming? ARE YOU TELLING ME IT'S OKAY TO BE A PROSTITUTE?
It's a lame ass story about a hooker with a heart of gold, who meets a rich guy that doesn't mind she was whoring herself, and that, that is what brought them together in the end when he rescues her from whoring herself to anymore people.
Like I said. LAME.

PHEW > Been waiting a while to get that one out in the open. I cant stand it when girls say "OH I LOVE PRETTY WOMAN!!"

Signed~
A Real Pretty Woman

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: nick91171
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 2:16pm
I like Pretty woman and just because ciscumstance put her in the position to have to sell herself doesn't mean she did not deserve a happy ending. To me that is saying so what you were molested as a child and have always been treated bad though you knew nothing better then giving away you body it is not good you met a man who wants to treat you right. The movie is not about her circumstance but how it ended to me anyway. Don't down someone for want a prince charming. Since you are a "Real Pretty WOman" what is that suppose to mean, life has always been great so of course you had to get nothing less then a prince charming?
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Registered: 05-16-2006
In reply to: nick91171
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 3:22pm
sorry. maybe I came on a little strong, because my life wasn't peaches and cream. I went through it just like the rest of you go through yours. But I was taught that you can work your fingers to the bone at two jobs before you ever have to take that job no matter what. Anyway my mother didn't ever have her prince charming. hmmm. something to think about.
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*Penny*
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: nick91171
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 3:41pm
I was taught the same way. But, I have saw and grew up with females who rather do it that way. Just last year a friend of mine introduced me a neighbor of hers. At first talking to her I thought wow a woman who has it together though she has been through a lot and has several kids. Only to find out later she was selling her self. Even with my attempts to talk about working this is what she has choose because as she puts it "she can make what I do in 8hrs of work in just a couple hours a night. She doesn't walk the street and sell herself but she does and teaches her daughters it is the best way of life. How I was taught and what I tried to explain to them was out of the qustion. But, I hope one day they get out of that thinking but it is nice to think this is something can happen to them.
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Registered: 05-16-2006
In reply to: nick91171
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 5:28pm
I guess, all we can do, is consider ourselves lucky than, ey? I'm against prostitution for one reason. Thats because I think it has to be taking something away from your spirit every time you do it. That can happen even if you love someone. Unimportant sex does affect your soul I think, the same as making love can.
Well two reasons, its also very unsafe. Sure there is the Venerial Disease side of it, sure. But there is also lots of wackos in that line of business. Including pimps. For those poor woman their lives are viscious cycles, and thats probably why they cant allow themselves to believe they could ever have anything better. If they did try, and they hit a bump in the road (as we all know are there) it might feel like their whole world caved in on them - like they were probably told, and thought it would.
Amsterdam kind of has it right I think. They have red light districts with legal prostitutes . Only these girls are tested for vd's and protected. It's an actual career. So I guess, if you really like sex . . .
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: nick91171
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 5:39pm
I do think it takes something from you. I am fortunate that I have not had to resort to that and my parents taught me I was worth more because when I think of it, I wonder how fulfilling it can be. I am sure it is for those who love sex but, I
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Registered: 09-27-2004
In reply to: nick91171
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 11:20pm
Well, I think there are those of us that have had a VERY rough childhood that made it out ok and didn't feel like we needed to go out prostituting so I guess I will never understand those people who have had it rough who go on to treat themselves with disrespect such as doing drugs, prostituting, etc. I believe there is always a way out and you just have to be strong and rise above it. It's tough but I figued there was no other choice for me, you either sink or swim and I decided to swim. My mom committed suicide when I was 12 and I had a verbally abusive father and step mother and I turned out to be just fine overall. I have a successful career and own my own condo. Granted I dont' have a good relationship yet but I do love myself and have done a ton of work this last year and am so proud of who I've become. So I guess I feel bad for those that had it rough and started doing the wrong things but at the same time I believe there is a way out because I've lived it.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: nick91171
Sun, 05-21-2006 - 6:19pm

I believe that it's entirely possible for a prostitute to fall in love and be loved in return. Let's face it....she's simply a girl who has a black dog in her past and has gone on to make some bad decisions in life.

Just because she's a prostitute now does not mean that she cannot move forward to a better life.

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