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| Wed, 06-29-2005 - 6:03pm |
Just curious.......
My brother and new sil they'll be married in a couple of days in the Caribbean...... You would not believe the amount of women who are trying to sleep with him before his(their)big day.
What would make a woman(an-ex) degrade herself to such a level to try to sleep with a man when she knows he is about to be married? I know men and women view sex differently that is why I am not addressing the man's roll when the roles are reversed.
Does she think she could possibly change his mind? Is she doing it to one day blackmail him? I really wonder what would make some women go this far....
And no, he has not indulged any of the requests, he is smittened by his so to be wife...... he just shakes his head in disbelief. He did say that if he knew he would get this much action, he would have said he was getting married years ago.
Curious to hear your thoughts.

1. no strings, no emotions
2. good sex (assuming he's good)
3. maybe to prove to themselves he's a bastard (if he does it)
4. (if he does go for it) ammo to tell the new wife and break them up (NOT to get him back, just to see him suffer)
Those are the only reasons I can think of that I'd ever go there. BTW, when you have a ring on, especially men, they tend to get hit on MORE than when they don't have one. Don't understand why. Same seems to be true for women.
~pineapple_girl
---Does she think she could possibly change his mind?---
The morning of our wedding, my (now deceased) husband's former gfriend called him; he hadn't heard from or seen her in YEARS. She gave him the line that she'd been thinking of him often but just decided to call out of the blue to see what he was doing. Imagine her surprise when he told her he was dressing to get married and had limited time. She, however, proceeded to attempt to engage him in the 'remember when' trip, especially about how good they were together and how much she had loved him (he told me they fought all the time). Turned out her mother had seen our engagement announcement (published many months before the wedding) and told her. Also turned out she felt he was the 'one who got away'. Did she seriously think she was going to call him and at the 11th hour he was going to ditch me and an event in which he had so much invested to take up w/someone he hadn't even seen for more than a decade? Yes, she actually did. Apparently, she had watched too many 'B' movies.
I am sorry we didn't see her at his funeral--she certainly would have been welcome given how much she 'loved' him.
These types of women are psychotic, self-focused and just plain stupid. Which is the overwhelming part of why their formers marry someone else. Witness, your brother. Good thing he recognizes the phenom for what it is.
Please don't spend one more minute thinking about this junk, sparkle...go, have fun, and Happy Wedding Day to you all!
Arch:
Thank you so much for your comments and sharing your story. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Yes, if she loved him as she said why didn't she come to the funeral, I wonder.
On another board, they wanted to say he liked the attention, it was an ego boost for him, which are all untrue.
My brother is the most humble man, like my father I have known in my life. His first wife cheated on him he was devastated and swore to never marry again that was 20 yrs ago. He has no problems in holding his own. He is and always has been very respectful of women. This woman from the other day, I saw her before he did. SHE was the one who waited outside the store for US to come out..... SHE wanted to put her last bid in we were minding our own business.
The other board tried to tell me he needed me and my sister to step in for him. He does not need me, my sister or mother to protect him.
The point I was asking is why do some women, knowingly pursue a man who is off the market so to speak?
My parents did not raise my brothers to be "playboys, players” we are very humble people. We were taught not to use our looks but our brains to get what we want. My brother is an accomplished doctor as is my sil. These women I speak of want the lifestyle my brother can provide for them, as they got a glimpse of it when they dated him.
There are just some men/women who do not want to see others happy and will try to destroy that happiness.
Thanks for your thoughts.
in regards to your brother and the other post, i think the ppl cleared it up well over there....
we just want to know why your brother didn't put a stop to this. because, he was in fact enabling it. and i don't feel it was your place, nor your right to step in.
But that's just my opinion.
Edited 6/30/2005 1:06 pm ET ET by pineapple_girl
~pineapple_girl
~pineapple_girl
Like my father my brother does not like confrontation it just is not him........
I (we) stepped in as this is the happiest I(we) have seen my brother in a very long time. I(we) refuse to allow/let anyone destroy it for him.
As I stated on the other board, his on a plane day after tomorrow so......