Just friends? Could use a guy's opinion

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Registered: 08-05-2009
Just friends? Could use a guy's opinion
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Wed, 08-05-2009 - 9:16am
Hello everyone, my name's Kate, I'm 21 yrs old and I'm new to the boards. In reading some of the insightful posts on here I was hoping some of you might take the time to help me with my own personal mess. Basically, I've committed the classic bad teen movie crime...I've fallen for my best friend. I met Matty a bit over 2 years ago through mutual friends and as corny as it sounds, we just "got" each other from the very start. In the last 2 years we've become very close and are always together. I pretty much resigned myself to the fact that my feelings that I developed for him were my problem and that for the sake of having him in my life in any way and our mutual circle of close friends I shouldn't risk making it complicated with anything else. And I just figured he didn't even see me as a girl anymore. Some of his more recent actions have made me question whether he might feel the same. He tried to kiss me on St. Patty's day this year when we were drunk, but at the time he had had a girlfriend so I turned him down. Nothing had happened between us like that before so I tried not to read into it and I just wrote it off as him being hammered and never talked about it. Things with his girlfriend ended about a month after that and he didn't make another move even though there were plenty of opportunities. But he's insanely protective of me, telling people that to get to me they go through him first and how he nearly got into a fist fight with one of our mutual guy friends Joe because he thought Joe had hit me when he got too drunk one night. And all those things did a pretty decent job of making me question whether he was just a devoted best friend or if he had other feelings, but nothing happened for months after the first time he kissed me, even after things ended with his girlfriend. So I never said anything. That is until last Wednesday when we were at a party drinking and we went to sleep in the same bed like we always do when we're sleeping in the house, and he kissed me again. This time I went with it and we made out for a while and fell asleep, he went to work in the morning and I was still sleeping when he left so we never spoke about it. But ever since then when I've spoken to him he's been using pet names like "babe" and "hun" which he'd never done before. He happened to get appendicitis 2 days after that and has been in the hospital since, so again there hasn't really been a good time to talk about things. I guess my question for all those who have taken the time to read this would be; Does it sound like he feels the same way or is it more likely that I'm reading too far into normal male/female best friend things? If I am reading too much into it, what's with the behavior? And should I talk to him about it? Thanks in advance for anyone who gave this some time, I appreciate any thoughts on the subject.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 08-05-2009 - 10:07am

This is an easy thing to figure out.


First off, "friends" don't do what he's