Kissing Confusion
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| Sat, 09-24-2005 - 9:46pm |
I have been dating this guy for awhile. We talk every night before he goes to bed, we spend a lot of time together, he has made it very clear that he likes "us". When he is over, most of our time is spent on the couch, cuddling up together (he initiates all physical contact), sometimes falling asleep together (and when he thinks I am sleeping, he lays there and stares at me or plays with my hair). He is a person who has made it very clear that he wants a serious relationship, wants to be married and have kids.
Here's the confusing part......he hasn't kissed me. He is very affectionate and it is definately more than friends.....I'm so confused about this, this is a new one for me. You can tell sometimes he wants to, but I think he gets too nervous? I don't know how to bring it up, and I am not one to be the first one to kiss a guy. How do I handle that?

"awhile" can a multitude of time factors. So here's my input without knowing how long you've been "together".
1) Don't judge too harshly: My XH didn't kiss me on any of our first six dates (it was at the point that I thought "okay, he enjoys my company and that's all there is"). However, once that first kiss happened, it was very difficult to stop.
2) If kissing is what you want, then initiate it yourself, or at the very least bring it up in conversation.
3) He may just want to play it safe. A coworker doesn't get physical (in any manner), until she "knows" the person.
Don't know if any of these will help - just my two cents!