Laid It On Line.. NOW WHAT???

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Laid It On Line.. NOW WHAT???
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Mon, 07-04-2005 - 6:48pm

This weekend, I finally told him how I felt. For the past 2 years we've "been" together on and off. Here's the problem. He's a widower, and last week was the 5 year anniversary of his wife's death.

This weekend we had a long talk. I told him how I felt. Told him that if he wasn't ready to date I understood, or if he wasn't ready to date ME -- I needed to know. I am 32 and told him that I can't wait around for another 2 years for him to be ready. Even if I waited -- how would I know that it was Me that he'd want to be with.

I am 1,00000 percent head over heels for this man. He confides in me, and when we are together we have a fantastic time. When I talked to him this weekend -- I basically laid it on the line. Told him that I want to be with him, and want to actually "date".

Now I am nervous to see where and if this will go anywhere. He truly is a genuine person -- and when I asked him where he was at, he said he wanted to date and spend more time with one another -- but how long do I wait to see if that happens?

I just get so upset because I am not new to this.. it's not like this is the first person I've falled for -- but he's the first person I ever pictured myself with long term. He has every quality I've ever wanted -- and more -- and I have this amazing feeling that we really are meant to be... I know that sounds sappy -- but I have truly never felt like this before...

Any advice??? I still can't believe I actually had the courage to finally bring all this up to him. In the past, I've been afarid to push him into a committment that he was not ready for..

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Registered: 08-18-2003
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 3:35pm

And I can agree with all of that.

~~ Steffy ~~

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