[long] interesting LOVEstory What to do?

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Registered: 12-01-2003
[long] interesting LOVEstory What to do?
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 9:16pm

Havent been on here in a while... WHY? because a month ago i broke up with my relationship with my first love boyfriend of 3 years ( my high school sweetheart from 11th grade ...im 19 hes 20.
---- in the past we argued alot always got back together. AFTER high school we rarely ever saw eachother at all && i had gotten pregnant in august my very first time having intercourse with him.. i didnt keep the baby because it wasnt the right timing& i was very sick... that made our relationship rocky. he wasnt there for me like i wanted him to be, but i think he was just shutting me out because he was going thru a lil emotion about the baby too.. of course im a woman and i am more emotional so i cry and talk about the situation all the time...and i think that pushed him away from me. Not to mention i also told him to stay away from me at the time i went thru the abortion process.
so....... we broke up november 1st 2005. Because one day i wanted to spend time with him and he didnt want to, he just wanted me to come over and have sex with him so i was fed up& couldnt take it and just screamed at him. ITS OVER!

i hadnt talked to him at all after that night.. except for a few messages on&off from our yahoo account. i really missed him alot after half the month we hadnt talked and i wrote to check up on him and make sure he was still alive..

yesterday out of the blue he called me. i was so shocked and excited but of course didint let him know i was... he told me he missed me and asked me if i had enough time away from him. i told him yes.. he asked if ive been out on dates... and we just chatted for about an hour. i missed hearing his voice& i missed him alot period. ive only been with him and no one else so it was always just me& him.
in the beginning of our break up i cryed myself to sleep alot.. eventually i got over it&him and partied every weekend.

but this is crazy i thought we really would never ever speak or be together again. i feel myself getting back with him and he wants me to come see him and i really do b/c its been a month and i miss him soo much. i also feel like im going to with him for the rest of mny life. he makes me feel.... and i want to be with him forever.

New viewers and readers who already know about me.. what do you think abou this? i kno alot of you said: during the breakup.. to just leave him alone and get over him.

but, what is a girl to do when she is in love so deep. ??

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Registered: 11-28-2005
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 11:56am
So you love him...and if you want to get back together with him and he with you then give it a try.Trust your gut feeling though. If things were rocky before it is highly likely that they will become so again. You two obviously went through a lot and things may never be the same. Keep in mind that hes your first love, and they are very hard to get over. Use this time you have before you make a decision to consider your life and what you want, what are you goals? etc. Perhaps starting a new chapter in your life and experiencing new things and new people would be good for you. Relationships commonly only go two ways eventually...breakup or marriage(with the exception of some LTR's)Which way do you see this going honestly? Are you ready for marriage? What do you want in life? Do you both have long term life goals in common? etc. There are many questions you should ask yourself while at this crossroad. Decisions that seem small now could have a huge impact on the rest of your life. Whatever you decide to do I hope the best for ya. If things dont work out with this guy dont worry...it may hurt and take a long time to heal but in the end you'll be ok (the majority of us dont marry our first love) There are so many things out there to see and do and people to meet and so many changes that take place especially in those college years. Enjoy it all! take care. :)
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Tue, 12-13-2005 - 3:31pm
thank you... we both know eachother pretty well.. so if we do get back together i know wat comes behind him and he knows the same about me.. in february we will be going to school together.. most the problem were we never really saw eachother and thats one thing i want differant and i let him know that and he feels the same.
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Registered: 11-28-2005
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 5:42pm
yea, not seeing eachother definitly puts strains on the relationship. I know that from experience as well. Love takes work and being with eachother to keep it giong. If you both feel the same about spending more time together thats great! you should give it another go with this boy that you love. :) and dont be afraid to speak up about different needs before it gets to the point where it causes problems. Best wishes, Sami.