Loniliness during the holidays...
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Loniliness during the holidays...
| Wed, 12-21-2005 - 9:11am |
Sing it with me, folks: "It's the most wonderful time of the
| Wed, 12-21-2005 - 9:11am |
Sing it with me, folks: "It's the most wonderful time of the
Hi Marie!
Pianoguy (who admits that this is one of the toughest holiday seasons he has ever faced), has learned that it's better to celebrate based on desire, rather than what others expect! In other words, DO AS MUCH or AS LITTLE as your personal comfort dictates.
While this might sound a little selfish to people who "step into Christmas" (BIG-TIME)...I think it's often more harmful when individuals "pretend" to be having a good time for the benefit of family and/or friends...if the true feelings inside are being suppressed? I'm not suggesting that all family (or friendship) traditions should be completely abandoned? But perhaps a few of 'em might be 'curtailed a little?'
Unlike past years...I've approached this season at a pace that's comforting to me. It's much S-L-O-W-E-R and a bit more reserved. Doesn't mean I'm not celebrating, but considering my budget and desire to socialize, I've made a few cutbacks in the usual routine!
If a party invitation comes my way and I don't wish to attend, I'll be polite...make my excuses...and avoid it. If a few well-intentioned friends DEMAND that I pick out a Christmas Tree (just because they have one), put up decorations, or bake holiday goodies because "I've done this in year's past", I politely smile and say...."I'M NOT FOLLOWING THE SAME TRADITION THIS YEAR! However...if YOU wanna come over and decorate my house or bake me 2 months worth of cookies....GREAT!"
I honestly think the toughest issue about being single during the holidays is having thoughts (and perhaps a little desire) for a companion who HONESTLY enjoys the fact that I can become 'childlike' one minute...and then, an adult the next, and in both situations...still LOVE ME for the person I happen to be?
While such a lady or gentleman might not be present in your life this year(because of a break-up, an out-of-state family visit, or an S.O. who has made previous plans), I guess the BIG CHALLENGE is trying to deal with "the separation?" This is probably more difficult for most of us than anything connected with the season? Not having someone in your life during the happiest time of the year CAN be disappointing...but not impossible! Besides, who gets everything on a "wish list?" .
Having read and responded to more than 3 thousand posts during 2005, I've often wondered one thing? Is being in the company of someone who makes you uncomfortable...or who physically or verbally abuses you...really a better way to spend the holidays than to spend them alone? Living (or putting up) with an abuser of any sort seems to defeat "the real meaning of the season", doesn't it?
To those who are lucky enough to have a special someone....and to those who don't....MY SINCEREST BEST WISHES FOR PERSONAL HAPPINESS THROUGHOUT THE HOLIDAYS, IN ADDITION TO A BETTER YEAR AHEAD!
Pianoguy
Very nice post, Pianoguy.
Thank you, and Best Wishes (back) to you for a joyous Holiday Season.
jilly.
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It's pretty widely documented that the holiday season is a MAJOR time for stress and depression for many people.
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Marie
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