Looking for help

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Registered: 09-11-2005
Looking for help
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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 8:20pm
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Our relationship has been really good, but I've been somewhat unhappy lately. For the past few months he has been working constantly, to the point where I'm lucky if I get to see him. He will make an effort to see me sometimes, but there are days where I don't hear from him at all. On those days I don't even know if he is working because he doesn't tell me so I end up waiting all day to hear from him..thinking I'm going to see him...(I end up being proven wrong by that night when I still don't hear from him.) I've tried talking to him about it and he always uses the excuses that he was too busy to call me or that he forgot. It always ends up in an argument because he feels I should understand, but I don't and I'm frustrated from not hearing from him. After the argument things start to change for like 2 weeks, but they always go right back to where it started. I don't know what to do anymore. I love him and I know he loves me, but I'm sick of being put on the back burner. Help :(
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 9:06pm
Sweetie, if you're no longer his #1 priority.....then he's just not that into you anymore. Don't you want a relationship with someone who wants to be with you and thinks of you without being reminded?
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 10:23am
At the next available opportunity, you need to sit down and ask him, point blank, where you stand. He could say (or not say) a number of things but you'll be able to tell right away by his reaction. If he doesn't want to be in a relationship, he won't act like it (and it sounds like he's doing this now). It's terrible and very hard to accept but the sooner you do, the sooner you can move on.
It's not going to be easy to stand up for yourself but you need to. A relationship is TWO people fighting hard to keep it together. You can't and shouldn't do it alone.
Good luck!