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love me love me not?
| Tue, 02-07-2006 - 12:29am |
hey everyone,
my name is ashley and im 21 and my bf is 20. we love each other and get into fights like any couple. sometimes hell get really mad at me bc i can be a little immature and he will say "if this is how ur gonna act than maybe we shoudlnt be together" i can also be a little selfish sometimes and he will get mad and say that maybe we need a break if ur gonna continue like this...but sometimes he gets mad for no reason.. like i call him a pet name that he HATES and hell yell at me and say "didnt i tell u not to say that?" i really want this to work...so i take what he says and remember not to do it again....he has ashort temper so.....but anyway... sometimes well be making love and he will tell me to "promise him to never leave him" or hell say that randomly when we are just holding each other...hes never been a serious relationship before......so idk why he contradicts himself?
thx
ashley
my name is ashley and im 21 and my bf is 20. we love each other and get into fights like any couple. sometimes hell get really mad at me bc i can be a little immature and he will say "if this is how ur gonna act than maybe we shoudlnt be together" i can also be a little selfish sometimes and he will get mad and say that maybe we need a break if ur gonna continue like this...but sometimes he gets mad for no reason.. like i call him a pet name that he HATES and hell yell at me and say "didnt i tell u not to say that?" i really want this to work...so i take what he says and remember not to do it again....he has ashort temper so.....but anyway... sometimes well be making love and he will tell me to "promise him to never leave him" or hell say that randomly when we are just holding each other...hes never been a serious relationship before......so idk why he contradicts himself?
thx
ashley

>>we love each other and get into fights like any couple<<
I have to admit that I got stuck on the phrase " get into fights like any couple". It sounds like you are trying to justify to yourself that this behaviour is quite normal/common.
Hate to disillusion you, but not all couples fight. And of those couples that do fight, those who are in good relationships do it without yelling or threatening to leave. Instead, one partner raises a point and they discuss it together calmly and rationally.
There's a fair bet that his immature behaviour is a learned action. Perhaps his father is a yeller and insulter. Perhaps he's got limited communication skills and resorts to this type of behaviour because he doesn't know any other way to act. But whatever the cause, there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. Your two choices are to put up with it or leave.
If I were you, I'd leave. Not all relationships are meant to work. Love is not enough....a couple also needs to be able to have good communication.