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| Tue, 10-04-2005 - 3:58pm |
Me and my bf are both 21. We have been dating for about a month now, and I already hear wedding bells in my heart and drool whenever I see parents with a baby in arms. We are both very emotional and engage in soul-mate type-of-loving, and though we have made reference to a future together, neither has openly suggested the idea of US getting married. I have never felt this way about anyone (I am a former "player," a heartless wench), and though he's never "played" anyone (I knew him somewhat in high school), he claims to never have felt this way either. I am very much in love, and at the same time so afraid... afraid of losing him, afraid of getting hurt, afraid of not marrying the only man I have ever truly loved.... (Ah, I am acting like such a fool! 'Tis better never to love, I shall say). How long do you think we should date before even bringing up the subject? What is the perfect age for marriage? (I should mention that he is extremely mature for his age). How can I keep him in love without seeming too needy or becoming a wimp? How can I know for sure he feels the same? Responses will be TRULY appreciated!

Deep breath!!
Slow things down as you've only been dating ONE MONTH! For many couples everything is so wonderful in the beginning, as you are in the "honeymoon stage." This is a chemical driven process and can last up to a year or more.
Do enjoy DAING him though! Focus on getting to know him for a while. Maybe in the future, you can discuss marriage. Now is NOT the time.