..Meant to Be??

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Registered: 10-03-2005
..Meant to Be??
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 5:05pm

I've posted on a few other boards too so sorry if you've read this or whatever, I just really need some advice..

Last summer, my cousin got married.. I met her husbands brother at her wedding reception and we hit it off.. but I was 20 and he was 30 so I never thought anything more of it. On Christmas of that year, I went to his house with my cousin (at this point I was 21) and after I left he had asked my cousin if I thought I'd be interested in him. Well we all hung out a few nights later and we def hit it off and he got my number. We dated until this past summer when I broke up with him for this other guy. My ex was devestated, we had both talked about getting married & we really did have a good relationship, the only problem I ever had was our age difference. Well the guy I broke up for my ex with turned out to be a real jerk, cheated on me and I broke it off with him in September.

Now my first ex wants us to give things another shot. He says he still loves me and I know a big part of me loves him too. We're both "casually" dating other people. I've been out with this one guy 3 or 4 times and he took a girl to my cousins (she lives 8 hours away) for Thanksgiving.. I know with the guy I've been out w/ that we just don't have that "connection" even though he's so sweet. He also broke it off with this girl because he said he wants to be with me..

I just don't know, I've always said that once a relationship is over, its over. My parents really disapprove of us getting back together (he was pretty mean when I broke up with him..) I just don't know what to do.. Should I give it another shot??

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Registered: 10-28-2005
In reply to: lizzz2005
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 2:27pm
How mean was he when you broke up? He may have been hurt but hey, you're still 21. I don't think you know what you want in a man or in life yet. Have fun and go on with your life.
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Registered: 12-01-2005
In reply to: lizzz2005
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 10:36am
Look im a29 yr old female and i've had a couple of good and bad relationships engagements ect.... I think unless you eat sleep dream of your ex let the past be the past you are young you will have so many great opportunities to meet a nice (your type) of man... just my experience men think so much different then us... its the thrill of the chase