more then a coworking friend

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Registered: 08-03-2004
more then a coworking friend
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Fri, 12-02-2005 - 12:54am

a friend held a surprise party for a coworker of mine. nice guy.. came out to my bday party.. so i decided to get all dressed up and go to this party. i got some new party shirts and i felt pretty decent about myself...
then an old crush walks in... and well a semi-never ended crush..but anywho

he was kinda drunk.. and drinking more.. and it started off kinda nice.. just some playful back rubbing.. and such.. then we were sitting in the corner.. chatting.. drinking... kinda cuddling i guess... then i had the need to dance haha... so he danced with me.. and at first is was fun grinding.
but after awhile.."Ass like that" and he started to rub my ass (it's a round one).. then it was getting a little more serious.

nothing was ever directly mentioned between me and this boy, but our conversations are awesome, and he even told me to get into a class with him (unfortunatly he didn't get in.. so we're waiting for someone to drop out), and there are numerous times when he'll just touch me. lower back while at work (it's a very casual work enviornment) or on the shoulder as he's leaving.. and it's not like just fingers.. it's palmed..

well I really like this guy, and i have never been awseome with boys as anything more then friends. so i'm a little stuck at what i should do.. or if i'm just makeing up signs in my head! HELP! please!

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Registered: 06-22-2005
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 1:00pm
If he is really interesting in pursuing something with you, he will make a move and ask you out. There are many men who simply are big flirts and enjoy getting a woman riled up and playing with their mind so just keep that in mind. If you really want to get something started with him, make the first move and ask him out to dinner. This way you will stop wondering whether he really has an interest in your or if he is just playing with you.
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Registered: 11-25-2005
Mon, 12-05-2005 - 3:58pm
I'm kind of in the same situation. There's a guy whom I've worked with for 2-1/2 yrs. now and about 2 months ago one of his friends left a vm message on my phone at 2 AM on a Sun. His friend said he had something he had to tell me about this guy and insisted I call back. Well of course I didn't get the message till later that day. But anyway, we hang out together with other coworkers. One Friday before my b-day we all went out together. At the end of the evening he was rubbing my back and had his arm around me. He later walked me to my car and kissed me goodnight. He's put his arms around me a few times after work and kissed me. He's asked me if I wanted to go to dinner the Fri. after Thanksgiving, but he ended up calling in sick. He had bronchitis really bad. He had been sick most of the week. Well when I saw him on Mon. he said he owed me a dinner. Well we still haven't made any plans. It's weird sometimes he doesn't say much and other times he won't leave me alone. Just a little while ago he was in my office talking to me and playing with stuff on my desk. Weird huh? He also always complains about being alone. He doesn't want to celebrate the holidays because he has no one to celebrate with... blah, blah, blah. Anyway, I had decided to put some distance between me and him. I felt like he was just enjoying the attention. So, I understand your confusion. I think sometimes guys just like the attention they get from you. I don't know whether this guy is interested or not but I'll give you the advice I've taken. Just put some distance between you and him. See him in passing but don't say anything to him. Just walk past. Just kind of ignore him a little. I think guys thinks it's a big ego boost if you chase them and show them all sorts of attention. Give it a try and see what happens. If he really likes you, he'll probably ask you what's up. He may start to think he's losing you. Good luck and let me know what happens!!!