Mr. Right i hope?? finally !!

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Registered: 08-18-2005
Mr. Right i hope?? finally !!
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Thu, 09-08-2005 - 2:49pm

Hi everyone – I’ve posted here only once before but the advice I received was well worth it and well – I have another dilemma.

After 2 years of dating I’ve actually met a Mr. Right..! Things are progressing and we had “the talk” about moving forward to a mature relationship.

My problem is I’ve been dating “Mr. Right Now’s” for the past while but have one in particular that has been around for 2 years now. He knows he is NOT the only guy I see (I think – although we’ve never asked e/o).

He is the only person I’ve been intimate with over the 2 year period. We see e/o in a very non traditional way. I guess the best way to put it is that it is a “booty call” type of relationship… he calls I go… sometimes late at night.. etc… you get the picture..

He’s been away about 6 weeks now and conveniently Mr. Right came along during that time. He has called 2 times while he was away…

I want to break up with Mr. Right Now… but I don’t want to explain everything to him. Our R wasn’t serious enough that I should tell him.
I would rather just be busy when he called and not call etc.. but my gut feeling is that is not the right thing to do either…

I appreciate your advice..any advice!! He comes back next week…so I will have to do something!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 2:57pm

I think the next time he calls, I would just say something like, "I've enjoyed the time we've spent together over the past couple years but I am no longer at a place in my life where I want to continue our arrangement. I wish you all the best." I agree, he doesn't need details, but he also shouldn't be brushed off.

Sheri

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 3:08pm
I think you should sit your friend down when he gets back and just explain to him that you have met someone you could see getting serious with and so you can just be platonic friends..Don't not say anything because in the end you may end up being the one burned...
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 3:29pm
Take Northwestwanderer's advice. Tell him it isn't workin' for ya any more and best of luck. He will find another booty call. And good for you for setting a standard and getting your priorities in order!