my ex-fiance is back! what to do?

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Registered: 01-11-2007
my ex-fiance is back! what to do?
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 2:18pm

Hi everyone!

I just wanted to run something by you, perhaps someone has some helpful advice. :-)

My fiance called off our engagement and all but ended our relationship in january (i moved out and we have been fighting quite frequently since then).

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2009
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 2:23pm

CUT EX LOOSE. What are you waiting for? What do you really have to lose? He's a thorn in your side and he's holding you back. Is it hard to completely cut contact with someone? YES! But it's necessary. If it were easy then it wouldn't be the right thing to do - That's how things work.

He's grovelling because he is desperate. He will do anything it takes to win you back because he sees you moving on, and his ego can't take the idea of you moving on from him. So what happens when you finally give in to him? Do things magically change for the better? No. He starts feeling comfortable with you again and the cycle begins anew.

History means nothing when it ruins your future. Get over the nostalgia and move on to a better chapter.

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Registered: 03-09-2006
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 4:40pm

i dont want to cut him completely out of my life because i am scared to

That says it all. You don't want him, you want a back up plan. That's unfair and selfish. You can't hold on because you're scared.

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 8:41pm
Only go back with the ex if you really love him.