My Man is driving me crazy!! Please Help
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| Fri, 10-28-2005 - 12:42am |
Hello Everyone,
This might be a little long but I am so confused!!!! Let me start out by saying that all I wanted to find was a good guy that truly loved me, my past relationships were really bad, and i do not compare my current man to my ex's. My guy loves me more than anything and he wants to marry me!!!1 But he wants to be with me 24/7!!!! He gets so mad if I want to have a night to myself. And out sex life sucks because not only does he anyalze every single little detail of our relationship he also anyalzes our sex life!! And he wants to be around me so much that I really don't want to be around him. I know that he won't do anything to hurt me like lie or cheat but hes driving me nuts!!! And to top it off his father flips out about everything and now I am starting to notice it in him. He gets upset about everything and he makes me feel that I ruin his day (everyday) when soemthing doesnt go how he likes it. And he always wants to know my feelings but when I tell him my feelings; that are I am sick of fighting and anyalzing every part of everyday; he gets mad at me and we fight more. He doesnt even realize that he gets mad and gives me and attitude and fight every topic. I have known this guy for a long time and he is a great guy, but even his family notices that he has never been so possessive about a girl before. I know that this is a long confusing message but I am so confused!!!!!! Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this. Please help

You need to get out of this, and all, relationships for a while and stand on your own. Figure out why you make the choices you do. You said all you want is for someone to truly love and care about you but unless you're doing this for yourself, you have no way of identifying what healthy love and care is about.
lorenamaria,
I think you have answered your own question. I'm sure your man is a great guy - but he may not be the guy for you. Apparently, he is displaying some behavior that is not at all compatible with your values in a relationship. Someone else may be more tolerant - but apparently he is just getting on your nerves. Also, the fact that he is displaying some anger issues that you recognize in his father is a red flag. This will not get better by itself - and I don't know of anyone who "changed" for a girlfriend or boyfriend. Only until they recognize the problem themselves can a change be made and then the chances are slim. I have a vast amount of long-term dating experience and have encountered many different personalities. I hope you pay attention to your gut feelings and not your heart when thinking about this situation.
Thanks. Mcfeathers