My opinion-we choose if it is meant to..

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Registered: 12-28-2007
My opinion-we choose if it is meant to..
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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 9:31pm

BE...!!!


I am so sick of people around me saying...well, if it is meant to be for you and your boyfriend it

Missy
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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 9:56pm
I hate to introduce pessimism here but it's my experience with men (and I've had to end relationships with men because they weren't on the same page about marriage) that if they say stuff like "let's see how it goes" and "let's see what happens" and other generally nebulous things in response to marriage, they do not want to get married.
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Sat, 07-04-2009 - 6:56am

That may be true...when they say nebulous things...they may not want to get married.

Missy
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Sat, 07-04-2009 - 9:39am
Exactly. Things don't just happen, they are choices.
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Sat, 07-25-2009 - 2:55pm

I agree.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 07-27-2009 - 9:44am

Missy,


I agree with you on your opinion. However there's a few things I don't agree with. When you are in a relationship, no matter how old you are or how long it's been, if your goal is to get married or get engaged before you move in together, that goal needs to be followed through before..not after. It's how people or one person stays in a relationship for way too long, hoping and wishing something will happen. If that's the case, and the 2 people aren't on the same track, then you have your answer right there. It's the biggest problem when it comes to RL, it's been in that "fog" and not paying attention to the signs. From what I've learned in RL, knowing ahead of time and making sure your on the same track is the key.


Honestly, he's being laid back because he's "comfortable", and doesn't feel any need to get married or engaged. It should have been you moving in with him and not the other way around. But he certainly could suprise you too and propose, but it doesn't look that way.

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 5:19am

Yea, I agree....after the holidays...I will have some kind of talk.


Thank you,

Missy
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Thu, 07-30-2009 - 3:00pm

I agree with sweatpea79.