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|Sat, 12-29-2012 - 9:11pm|
I've been on and off with this guy Joe since January 2012 and I just found out that his parents were born on the same day of the month but different months and years just like us!!!! His birthday is in March so I found out 3 months after we met that we're both the same day, but I'm October. I just love things like that.... but I know for sure it's NOT meant to be :-(
I broke up with him in April because that is when I joined his Facebook and saw that he's still friends with his ex. She posts on his Facebook a lot. They dated 4 years and have mutual friends so he sees her and he's tagged in all these pics. He also confessed he needs a green card. I still liked him though but had to end it, however.....
We became friends with benefits in May but I stopped seeing him when I had 3 dates each with 2 guys. I didn't like them (they deserve their own thread here on ivillage), so I told Joe in July that I liked him again, said I was no longer concerned with his ex. Then with the green card thing, I'm 37 and sometimes I feel so lonely and think I may not meet anyone else and I could settle for Joe - but I really like him, honest, I won't be settling, but he gives me butterflies in my stomach - there's something about his green eyes and his smile.........
So when I told him I liked him, he brought up the subject of children. I forgot this but he remembered that I mentioned I want to buy a one bedroom co-op because it's cheaper, and he said what about 2 bedrooms in case you have any kids? Then I said "Oh I probably won't want them"........ so he rejected me and we remained FWB's - but then I ended it because I really liked him and it was torture for me.
Then I got over Joe (because I had a few dates with this other guy who never called after the 4th date because I said no to sex or he just didnt' like me). I requested Joe on Facebook again, and he denied me, so I emailed him to say hi, and good luck with everything. He texted me a month later and sex never came up in the convo, but when we met up it happened after dinner... none of us talked about the children thing...... I'm really starting to like him again and have to tell him I can't see him and can't be friends anymore. I will tell him not to contact me again. What I REALLY want to say is "Call me if you change your mind about kids." But I wouldnt' dare say that!!!!
I'm wondering why he contacted me again after denying me on Facebook and knowing I don't want kids and he does.... he probably just wanted sex........ right? thanks