Need advice

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Registered: 05-10-2005
Need advice
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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 4:57pm

Hi

I need some help. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. We have had our up and downs. In January, we had broke up for about 2 weeks. He is recently divorced and was scared to be in love again, and didnt know what he wanted. So during this time, he had went out with another girl. He told me they were just friends and that was it. They only went out one night. So we did get back together...he said he did love me and wanted to be with me. Then in March we moved in together. This was his idea and we both wanted to do this. But then a couple of weeks ago, he decided it would be best if we didnt live together. He said he wasnt happy living with someone. He says he doesnt know what he wants...and I ask him if he wants to just quit seeing each other. He says he still wants to see me. But now I find out after all this time, the girl he went out with has been calling him alot.

What should I do....my heart tells me one thing and my head tells me another. Should I just let him go??

Thanks
Lori

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Registered: 05-04-2005
In reply to: help2005
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 5:28pm

I think you should let him go. Your guy doesn't know what he wants, but he does know he wants to have his cake, and eat it too (meaning

~pineapple_girl

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Registered: 01-21-2005
In reply to: help2005
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 7:28pm

I agree with the other poster, I think it is time for you to cut your losses. It has been my experience that men just simply are not that complicated. Their actions and words speak to how they really feel, at least to a degree. I think a guy who says that he does not know what he wants is really saying "I'm not sure if I want you." I don't mean to sound harsh or anything, because I'm sure you are a wonderful person, but he isn't seeing that.

I think that you should let him go and find someone who is willing to give you 100%, because that is what you deserve. Also, if you really are meant to be with him, he will see it and trust me, once a guy decides that you are the one for him, he will do absolutely anything to be with you! Go find a guy who is worthy of you!

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Registered: 09-30-2004
In reply to: help2005
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 9:16pm

I think you should let him go.

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?

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Registered: 05-10-2005
In reply to: help2005
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 1:40pm
Hey I'm going to be straight dead honest, you must let him go. You don't want a guy that's jsut going to play with your emotions, you need to find a guy that's going to be committed to you. You don't derserve what he is doing. He's not even sure what he wants and he shows it. I know you care about him, this sounds like my ex situation last year, but sometimes you have to let go of someone to see if there's anything worth holding onto. You need to make yourself happy and although you may feel being with him is going to make you happy it may not if he could still be seeing another girl on the side, it's not fair to you, I would totally jsut end it with him, maybe you 2 can be friends at least, but I wouldn't get into a relationship with him. Good Luck!
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Registered: 05-10-2005
In reply to: help2005
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 7:45pm
Thanks for the advice. I know you are right and this what I need to do. Thanks again!